Couples Therapy and
counselling help for emotional, behavioural and relationship problems or communications breakdowns
By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, in Hebden Bridge and Halifax; London, Leeds and Manchester;
and Edinburgh, York and Wilmslow; and by telephone all over the world.
"Loving relationships are a result of a commitment to being loving, and a rejection of anger, hatred, selfishness,
and other negative emotions".
Doctor of Counselling, September 2011.
only known to those who love". Anonymous
is short and we have not too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are travelling the dark way with us. Oh,
be swift to love! Make haste to be kind". Henri Frederic Amiel
"The moment I start arguing (with you) I can be sure I am not sure of myself".
K. Bradford Brown
(Learn to fight fair; to be assertive, and not aggressive
the need to avoid the negative emotions of anger, hatred, unhealthy jealousy, and so on, it is argued by Dr Erich Fromm, a
famous psychoanalyst, that the art of loving is based upon four key principles, which include: Care,
respect and responsibility. Based on this definition, you could train yourself to remember to ask yourself:
# Do I care for my partner? Do I show by my words and actions that I care
for my partner? Does my partner clearly feel cared for by me (as revealed by their words and actions)?
# Do I respect my partner? Do I show by my words and actions that I respect
my partner? Does my partner clearly feel respected by me (as shown by their words and actions)?
# Do I take responsibility for my side of my sex-love relationship? Do I
show by my words and actions that I am an actively responsible (rather than passively irresponsible)
partner? Does my partner clearly feel/believe that I am taking an equal, joint responsibility
for our relationship (as shown by their words and actions)?
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