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Learning to manage
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"Helping you to rethink your self-narrative"
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CONFIDENCE COACHING:
For a Better Life at Home and at Work
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"Your reputation is not a *concrete
reality*! It is a set of questionable beliefs and attitudes in the minds of others. It is your own unwise willingness to buy
into their unkind judgements that causes you the pain of *status anxiety*!" Jim Byrne, December 2004.
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"Other people's heads are too wretched a place for true happiness to have
its seat". Schopenhauer, *Parerga and Paralipomena*, 1851.
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- Would you like to be more self-confident?
- Would you like to be able to accept yourself exactly the way you are right now?
- Would you like to be able to feel good about yourself, no matter whether anybody loves and accepts you or not; and
no matter whether you succeed or fail in your practical life tasks?
If
so, I can help you.
Dr Manuel Smith, the author of a famous book entitled *When
I Say No, I Feel Guilty*, maintains that we are all born confident, and that our encounters with our parents induce feelings
of guilt, shame, and self-downing, which damages our self-confidence. A similar view is held by Paul McKenna, the famous hypnotist.
In my professional judgement, this is not a good way to go in trying to understand or overcome your problems of self-confidence.
It seems to me that, if you follow Dr Smith and Paul McKenna, you could still be stuck with your problems of lack of self-confidence,
plus you could also acquire problems of rage at your parents for *causing* your problems. So I cannot recommend this approach.
Jean Paul Sartre, the French existentialist intellectual, maintained that we are very
confident as long as we are the *subject* who is perceiving all others as *objects* in our gaze. However, he suggested that
as soon as we perceive that we are suddenly an *object* in the gaze of the other, we lose our poise and confidence and become
distressed and *existentially anxious*. This is no better, in my view, as a way of understanding our self-confidence problems,
since we are now being invited to hand our power over to anybody to *create us* in their gaze, and make us the victims of
their gaze; and to ignore the fact that we have a *choice* about how to respond to the *gaze* of the other! No matter how
you *look at me*, or perceive me, or *construct* me, I am going to accept myself exactly as I am, as an OK human being. So
I cannot recommend taking a Sartrian existentialist view of your lack of self-confidence.
- Would you like to know a reliable way to develop your self-confidence?
- Would you like to be comfortable with yourself exactly the way you are today?
The best solution to problems of self-confidence, in my experience, is that developed by Dr Albert Ellis, the New
York based clinical psychologist, and creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy. Somewhere between 1955 and 1962, Dr Ellis
evolved the concept of *Unconditional Self Acceptance* (USA), which is the royal road to supreme self-confidence. I have now
developed a five-month programme - involving one brief session per month - based on a fusion of REBT/USA, TA and Zen, which
helps you to identify with your pure essence, and to escape all negative identifications and all forms of self-downing. And
I am currently refining this process to make it more *moral* and explicitly *socially responsible*. Instead of Unconditional
Self Acceptance, I advocate One-Conditional Self Acceptance, and that one condition is this: As long as I am trying my very
best to be a moral being, I can accept my fallibilities and failings in the world. I cannot, however, excuse myself
for moral failings when I have not tried sufficiently hard to be the best person I can be, and to do the moral thing in every
situation.
- Would you like to develop your sense
of OK-ness, and feel comfortable with your self-image?
If you would like help with problems of self-confidence or self-acceptance, then I can help you, face to face
in Hebden Bridge or Halifax; over the Internet anywhere in the world; or by Telephone coaching.
Online service. Coaching sessions cost $US50) for thirty-five minutes of telephone counselling,
or online contact via Voice over the Internet (VOIP) or internet relay chat(IMs), plus any local taxes. To book a session,
email Jim Byrne at jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com, to fix the date and time; and then click here for One Long Distance Confidence Coaching Session.
For face to face coaching, the maximum fee is £100.00 per
forty-five minute session: though concessions are available (in face to face meetings only) on a sliding scale, related to
your gross annual income. (See the sliding scale of fees, in the *Information Pack*). The lowest fee, for unemployed individuals, students and pensioners, is currently £25.00.
To arrange a face-to-face Confidence Coaching session, in Hebden Bridge or Halifax, please email Jim Byrne at ABC Coaching.
The complete Confidence Coaching Programme consists of four sessions, followed by homework
assignments designed to get you developing the beliefs, attitudes and behaviours which will turn you into a supremely confident
person.
This programme can be done face-to-face, over the telephone, over the internet, or by email exchanges, from any part of the globe.
- Do you want to change
your self-image and learn to accept yourself as you are? Do you want to feel good about yourself, and poised in the world?
I can help you to be more confident in a surprisingly brief period of time.
- Do you want to be more confident and self-accepting? Email Jim Byrne – at ABC Coaching - to set up a *face-to-face* Confidence Coaching session in Hebden Bridge or Halifax; or to request
further information. Or telephone me on 01422 847 882, from inside the UK; or 44 1422 847882 from outside the UK.
Or use the Freephone button:
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THE HIGH-SPEED GUIDE TO SELF-CONFIDENCE FOR WOMEN, by Renata Taylor-Byrne, Personal
Performance Coach
The High Speed Guide to Self-confidence for Women is a
summary of the top skills and strategies that women greatly benefit from using, in order to maximize their sense of self-confidence.
In this sense it is an ‘instruction booklet’ that gets you off to a quick start. There are physical and mental
strategies that are based on much research and experience. They work for me. They have worked for others. Try them and see
for yourself!
Because both western and eastern cultures bombard you from an early
age with false, misleading messages about your ability, potential and rights, you need powerful tools to help you separate
cultural fantasy from fact, and to build up your physical and mental strength, to create a marvellous career for yourself,
and to create a loving and supportive family relationship network.
The High Speed Guide to Self-confidence for Women, Price $9.00 USD; [plus
any applicable local taxes]). Click this link for conversion to other currencies.
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SUPREME SELF CONFIDENCE: in 150 days, by Dr Jim Byrne, Coaching
and Counselling Psychologist/Philosopher
The purpose of this book is to help you to develop
supreme confidence in your self; and happiness and mastery in your life.
The programme
described involves small, easy steps, which build up, over time, into a very powerful transformation of your self-belief,
your self-concept, and your self-acceptance when things go wrong in your life.
This
book is based on a system (called Unconditional Self Acceptance [USA]) which has been producing great results for
individuals for almost 50 years. Chapters include: Self-confidence and emotional control; Getting rid of feelings of inferiority;
Learning to distinguish between your behaviours and your human essence; and How to manage your Self and your Ego. These chapters
help you to get over your disturbed emotions; to begin to see yourself in a better light; to look at yourself more realistically
and accurately; and to come to love and accept yourself.
# Supreme Self-Confidence
in 150 days, by Jim Byrne (2002), 160pp. In e-book form, delivered to your computer within a few hours: Cost
$US30.00; Click the following link to check currency conversion, or to buy this book:
The Supreme Self-Confidence Book, Price $30.00 USD, [plus any local
taxes that apply]).
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Or, for any further information, please email
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com.
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