Whatever your goals are, so long as they are reasonably realistic, we can
help you to achieve them. Whether they are practical, professional, personal, emotional, behavioural or to do with your
relationships, we can help.
Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne
The benefits and outcomes of E-CENT coaching, counselling
By Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne
30th November 2015
What follows is a brief list of some of the main benefits you could
gain by consulting us for help with your on-going problems of daily living. Perhaps you are feeling angry, anxious or
depressed; or involved in couple conflict; or struggling with your career or your family relationships. Whatever your problems,
we can help you to clarify them; and to develop stronger muscles for dealing with them.
E-CENT counsellors explore the narratives of their clients,
with a view to helping them to manage their feeling-stories better: “Creating
a consistent self-narrative (or personal story) that feels true to ourselves is a challenge at any stage in life. Our
stories give shape to our (unformed, fragmented), fleeting impressions of everyday life. They bring together the past
and the future into the present to provide us with structures for working towards our goals. They give us a sense of identity
and, most importantly, serve to integrate the feelings of our right brain with the language of our left”.
Philippa Perry, How to Stay Sane (2012). Page 74.
Our comments: But we must never lose sight of the fact that the maintenance of those stories depends upon the state of our physical
well-being – our body-minds - through diet, exercise, sleep, relaxation, relationship support and environmental stressors,
and so on. It is not about free-standing stories in a ‘floating head’.
Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne, November 2015
List of benefits
The main benefits that clients gain from our coaching, counselling and
psychotherapy services include the following:
1. A listening ear. We all know that a problem shared is a problem halved.
And being listened to by a professional coach, counsellor, psychotherapist can halve your level of distress, and help you
to clarify for yourself exactly what is bothering you, and what your goals are in relation to that clarified problem.
This helps to be clear about the solutions that are available to you, and the actions you need to take to move forwards.
2. A teaching /learning experience.
When clients come to see us, they often think they know precisely what their problem is, but fail to recognize that they are
looking at their life from a limited frame of reference. We can often teach our clients new ways of looking at their
strengths and weaknesses; their blind spots; their potential for change; and we also teach them many new ways of thinking
and feeling about their problems.
Counsellors and their clients need to develop a
feeling language; a language of the heart: “The logic of
the emotional mind is associative: it takes elements that symbolize a reality, or trigger a memory of it, to be the same as
that reality. That is why similes, metaphors, and images speak directly to the emotional mind, as do the arts –
novels, film, poetry, song, theatre, and opera”.
from: Daniel Goleman (1996) Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. Page 294. (129)
Great spiritual teachers have always known this, which is why they teach in parables, fables, and stories. And that
is why, in E-CENT counselling, we teach using stories couched in the language of the heart.
3. Reassurance. We can
often reassure our clients that they are okay exactly the way they are; or that all will be well; and that everything will
work out reasonably well if they simply adjust their approach to their life in some particular way. We often create
hope where the client was feeling hopeless and helpless. And we often teach better ways to prepare for dealing with threats
4. A secure, emotionally supportive relationship
of care, respect and support. We provide a secure base for
our clients, building up their sense of secure attachment in the world. Humans are emotional and relational beings.
We need to be loved, and to feel securely connected to other people in the world. “No person is an island, complete
within themselves”. We all need to be securely connected to somebody, and we teach our clients to feel securely attached
to us, and then to generalize that feeling in the wider world.
Unsolicited client testimonial
"Dear Jim. ... Around session three, the anger just drained out
of me. Sessions four and five gave me some great insights and skills. I'm much better with my wife and my kids, and we all
enjoy each other's company so much more. I just feel so much more laid back. I cannot imagine getting angry about the things
that used to send me insane!"
H.T., Dewsbury, West
Yorkshire. (Five sessions of anger management coaching; plus one of couples therapy).
Here's a little five-minute video clip by Renata, which presents some interesting and to
some extent surprising explanations about the benefits of coaching and counselling services:
5. Appropriate advice. We
provide appropriate advice on how to improve your situation by changing some specific aspect of your thinking, or your behaviour,
or your social or physical environment. In particular, we focus on the fact that you are a body-mind that is connected
to an environment - and not a ‘floating head’. So we help you to look at what you are putting into your
body, and how you are treating your body, as well as how you manage your mind, and how you are managing your relationships.
We help you to review your approach to diet (eating, drinking, and supplements), physical exercise, relaxation, meditation,
sleep, relationships, communication, and many other factors that affect the quality of your experience of your daily life.
When you change your approach to all these factors, and especially those that are most in need of adjustment, your emotions
and social-behaviours tend to fall in line, and your happiness levels rise.
Unsolicited client testimonial
“Dear Renata, Thank you for the coach-counselling session yesterday.
I was badly split between warring parts of myself, and feeling very bad about my ‘economic failings’. You
helped to knit me back together again, into a much calmer, more integrated, more sensible ‘Me’!”
K.C., Crag Vale. (Two sessions of coach-counselling for despair about
Additional benefits of consulting us
When you consult us, you will get all five of those benefits: a listening
ear; a teaching/learning experience; reassurance; a secure emotional base; and appropriate advice. In addition, we can help
1. Identify what went wrong in your past.
2. Understand how that has affected you. And:
3. Recognize how to ‘complete your experience’ of what went
wrong, so you can ‘re-frame it’, digest it, and let it go. (‘Letting it go’ means, finally, filing
the past in the past!)
Sometimes we will also provide you with written materials
that provide detailed background information on how particular emotions are created, and how to manage and reduce them; how
behaviour is related to thinking; and so on.
You will also get an
attentive relationship of care, respect and consideration.
We counsellors, coaches and therapists promote emotional health (or emotional wellbeing) in our counselling clients.
Dr Oliver James has produced a list of features of emotional health.
This is item 7 in our list so far: Even
after you have achieved emotional health, “You may suffer depressions, rages, phobias, all manner of problems, from
time to time. You make mistakes. But because of your emotional health, you are able to live in the present and
find the value in your existence, whatever is going on, and this makes you resilient”.
Oliver James (2014) How to
Develop Emotional Health. Page
In E-CENT, we would say that slightly differently.
Firstly, we agree that emotional health is a situationally variable condition. When stress levels build up in your life,
you are likely to fare worse than when things are going well; but if you have a powerful philosophy of life, and a range of
coping strategies, and some good, supportive relationships, and a healthy attitude towards diet and exercise; then you only
feel ‘reasonably upset’ when things go wrong in your life, instead of totally distressed and distraught,
which is a more common state when people are not emotionally healthy. However, we also agree with Oliver James
in his implication that it is very difficult to be a healthy body-mind in an unhealthy economy/culture. Not impossible,
but very difficult. Just as it is very difficult to have a healthy mind in an unhealthy body. (Not impossible,
but very difficult!)
More than 85% of our clients experience our service as very good or
excellent; and report achieving the result for which they came to see us. Another 10% do not respond to exit questionnaires.
However, it is important to note that the vast majority of people who
come to see us, and to work on their problems with us, achieve dramatic results, and find that they quickly, and durably,
get over their emotional, behavioural and relationship disturbances. And, as long as they keep reviewing the work we did together,
they can continue to help themselves for a lifetime.
Now I want to present
a brief video clip on the benefits of counselling: ~~~
Unsolicited client testimonial
took an online depression test before I consulted you. I have just re-taken that test, four months later. Huge difference!
I went from 'severely depressed' to 'within normal range'! I'm in the clear and feeling good! Thanks". P.P., Brittany,
 E-CENT is the acronym for Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy, which was created by
Dr Jim Byrne, with the support of Renata Taylor-Byrne, around 2008 and earlier. For an introduction to E-CENT, please
click the following link: What is E-CENT?***
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