Email Counselling is a form of Writing Therapy with Professional
Details of Email Exchange
EXCHANGE OF EMAILS
service involves an exchange of emails - one from you to me, describing your problem or concern; and one reply from me, providing
analysis, interpretation, commentary and advice, as appropriate.
You can order this service by paying via ClickBank (below). (Click one of the yellow-highlighted links, below). And also, you need to email me to confirm
the arrangement, at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Your email can be up to two pages long (A4 or Letter
size pages), in 12 point type, using Verdana typeface, and leaving the margin settings as normal. This should be
attached to a brief covering email. (A4 size is the standard used on most word processors/printers, especially in Europe.
Letter is the American equivalent).
‘Play’ in counselling and therapy involves the willingness to let go of your old stories,
and to work at rewriting the narratives of your life: “Donald Winnicott speaks of (counselling and) psychotherapy as a means of bringing someone into a state of being
able to play, when previously this had been impossible. In play, there is a childlike (but yet also adult) dissolution,
reconstruction, and re-organization of memories, experiences, an events”. In the playfulness of exploring narratives
of your earlier life, you may have the startling but gratifying experience of creating a new life for yourself (because it
is newly interpreted).
Robert F. Hobson, Forms of Feeling: The heart of psychotherapy, Page 243.
I will read your email attachment, and comment at various points, giving my interpretations and comments, and
any advice or guidance that seems appropriate. The cost of this service, is $30 USD. (To convert this to any other currency,
click here: for One session of Email Counselling.)
soon as you've booked your email counselling session, via ClickBank, you can write your email and
send it to Jim Byrne at ABC Coaching and Counselling
I will normally give my detailed
and considered reply to your email within two or three working days.
"Writing therapy is highly effective, compared with drug treatments, but the mechanism
by which writing therapy works is still unclear. It may just be that the opportunity to express a problem that has been
bottled up is curative in itself; or that it is the thinking through of a problem that has not previously been thoroughly
digested that produces the effect. Effective writing therapy seems to involve processing previously unprocessed negative
emotions, in a self-reflective way, and identifying causal links between elements of the story. It also normally involves
using more positive than negative words, and ending with a coping self-statement". Dr Jim Byrne, from the first
e-book on CENT counselling.
Email counselling can involve one or two sessions to sort out a practical problem;
or a more extensive series of sessions, to resolve deeper, more traumatic emotional experiences. To see an example of
the latter, please see my recent paper on ‘The anatomy of a failed marriage: How to complete an undigested
adult relationship failure, using writing therapy.***Or take a look at a subsequent paper, on shame about cowardice, and developing courage: CENT Paper No.21: Healing the so-called ‘father wound’ – using supported writing
INSIGHTS INTO EMAIL EXCHANGES
AS A FORM OF THERAPY
According to the International Society for Mental Health Online (ISMHO):
"... In the case of using email exchanges ..., you may feel more comfortable writing about your problems than
talking about them.
4. You may write about what is bothering you sooner than you would talk about it. This can
bring faster resolution to problems.
5. Writing may help you to think through your problems and to get in touch
with your emotions. It can bring focus, clarity, insight, and emotional relief.
6. You can read and re-read your
emails, ..., thus achieving greater learning.
7. Writing enhances your relationship with yourself. ..."
Some additional points are made by Susan Wallbank, talking about writing more generally:
"(Email) counselling allows the client an opportunity to express thoughts and feelings and explore issues
at the time when these are uppermost in their mind. (Emails) can be written at (a time of most convenience) and continued
over a period of days or weeks. The client determines the timing of their side of the contract. Putting words down on paper
often enables the writer to feel a sense of control over their situation and is often perceived as therapeutic in itself.
Knowing someone is there to receive, acknowledge and respond to (emails) can provide those moving through (painful or distressing
transitions) with a sense of security and provides a tangible opportunity to chart personal progress". Susan Wallbank,
in Palmer and McMahon (2000).
"Writing therapy seems to be a viable option
for most people, but excluding people who are either: depressed, highly stressed, suffering from PTSD, or who have negative
associations with writing at school. It probably appeals most to people who enjoy writing, and who are self-reflective".
Dr Jim Byrne; from the first e-book on CENT counselling.
counselling can involve one or two sessions to sort out a practical problem; or a more extensive series of sessions, to resolve
deeper, more traumatic emotional experiences. To see an example of the latter, please see my recent paper on ‘The anatomy of a failed marriage: How to complete an undigested adult relationship failure, using writing therapy.***
If you are not sure how to begin to write your email, you might find
it helpful to read my Guidelines for Writing Theapy.
There are lots of testimonials from satsified
clients on the Unsolicited Client Testimonials
page. Here's an example:
Dear Jim! Thank you very much for your help with my problems with
shyness and social anxiety. Our work has helped me to gain important insights, and actually made me feel a little better in
a short amount of time. I know I need to 'work and practice, work and practice, work and practice'; and you have now clarified
for me what I need to work on, and how to do that work!" R.G., Denmark. (Exchange of four emails).
I will respond to the key points in your email with analysis, interpretations,
suggestions and action-oriented homework assignments. I might also send some handouts, or recommend some book or books
for you to read.
In other words, I will tell you what you can do that
will most likely solve your problem.
Click this link to purchase One session of Email Counselling.
To discuss this service, or to get additional information, please email Jim Byrne at ABC Coaching and Counselling Services.
Or phone me, Dr Jim Byrne, on:
44 1422 843 629 (from
outside the UK); or:
01422 843 629 (from inside the UK).
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