ABC Coaching & Counselling Services, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by telephone, email & Skype
 

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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services offers professional counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by telephone, email and Skype/webcam all over the world.

Plus some CPD courses and learning resources for counselling students; postgraduate students; qualified counsellors; and self-help enthusiasts.

The ABC services are based upon the theory and practice of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) - which incorporates CBT/REBT, depth psychology and humanistic (client centred) approaches.  More specifically, we integrate REBT/CBT, Transactional Analysis (TA), Narrative Therapy, Attachment Theory, Object Relations, Zen Buddhism and Moral Philosophy.

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Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK

Telephone counselling and Skypewebcam counselling all over the English speaking world.

Email counselling for individuals with good English writing skills, who are not seriously emotionally disturbed.

Academic coaching for counselling and psychotherapy students.

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Overview of site content: Counselling and coaching services; and counselling and coaching training courses and informational resources; including video format. Face to face coaching and counselling services; telephone counselling; email counselling; skype counselling; performance coaching; psychotherapy; couples therapy; books on counselling, and on anxiety, anger management, stress management, and happiness. Confidence counselling and coaching: Assertiveness; self confidence; self acceptance. Happiness coaching and positive psychology. Counselling research; and counselling supervision. Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT); Rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT); Cognitive emotive narrative therapy (CENT); Transactional analysis (TA); Object relations and attachment theory; Zen Buddhism and moral philosophy.  Training for counsellors; Articles and papers on CENT counselling.  Counselling diploma assignments.  Copy of counsellor's doctoral thesis.  The institute for CENT (cognitive emotive narrative therapy). Pages on attachment theory, meditation, narrative therapy, writing therapy, anger, anxiety, depression, stress, stoic philosophy for counsellors, and much more besides.

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Counselling and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge and Halifax HX7, West Yorkshire...

Face-to-face counselling;

or telephone counselling;

or via Skype;

or by email…

Get help to solve your emotional, behaviour and practical problems here. 

Help with couples therapy, anger management, anxiety, depression, stress, self-esteem, self-confidence, lifelong learning skills, and personal performance improvement. 

Plus counselling information sheets, information packs, training courses, learning modules, articles and papers; and a counselling blog...

The home of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT), in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 

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♣ Dr Jim Byrne’s counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services.***

 To Jim: “…At our previous session, your main intervention had the precision of an acupuncture needle hitting the spot.  I felt a great sense of relief from depression and stress immediately.  I felt so light and free.  Thank you. …  See you next week”.

J.K.K., Wakefield, West Yorkshire. (Three sessions of F2F counselling for emotional distress).

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♣ Renata Taylor-Byrne’s counselling and coaching services.***

“Thank you, Renata, for all the help you have given me in learning to think and feel in ways that were alien to me before I consulted you.  I have been on a long journey from suffering to joy!”

P.J.M., Sheffield, UK (Several consultations for a range of stuck issues, over a period of years).

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♣ Dr Jim’s counselling blog.***

Blog Post No.122: A counsellor blogs about CENT counselling, and how to promote a full and healthy life by studying the right books in the right way… 

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Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.1:

Emotional health: Definitions for counselling clients – Part 4 of a list of identifying features of emotional health, developed by Dr Oliver James. These are goals which are rarely achieved perfectly: No.5: When you are emotionally healthy, “You are adaptable, but without losing yourself.  When in social or professional situations which demand a measure of falsehood, you can put on a face to meet the faces that you meet without losing your sense of authenticity.  Your real self is as close as possible to the one you are presenting to others, depending on what is feasible.  For if a lie is necessary, you lie”.

Dr Oliver James (2014) How to Develop Emotional Health.  Page 2. (14)

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In CENT counselling, we have reservations about some of Oliver James’ positions.  Firstly, to lie when it is morally right to lie: that is okay.  (The classic case is when you open your front door and a mad axe-man asks you if there are any children in your house that he can kill.  If there are any children present, then [morally] you must lie through your teeth!)  However, to lie when it would be immoral to lie, that would be very bad (for you – in the longer term; and also for your society).  To tell occasional ‘little white lies’ for the sake of social cohesion is normally considered okay, also.

My second reservation is about the reference to “your real self”.  According to Robert Hobson (Forms of Feeling: The heart of psychotherapy): the ‘real self’ is a committee of sub-personalities, and not one of your sub-personalities.

Keep critically reviewing the advice you get from others regarding how to be emotionally healthy!  Become your own counsellor!

Dr Jim Byrne (15)

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♣ Couples therapy*** with Dr Jim Byrne.

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18 Principles of Couples Therapy 

The CENT counselling approach to Couples Therapy involves a combination of models, theories and techniques which come from some of the best approaces to helping couples to develop happy relationships that we have been able to identify over a fifteen year period.  Here is an example of one of the couple relationship principles that we teach: 

Principle 3. The best way to get love is to sincerely offer it to your partner.  In what ways could you offer love to your partner which you are not currently doing?  “But”, I hear you protest, “what love do I get from them?”  That’s a really crazy way to do the sums.  It’s just like the person sitting in front of a cold and black stove, with a huge wooden log in their hands, and saying to the stove: “If you give me some heat, I’ll give you this log!”  Crazy!  All they have to do is put the log on the fire, and fan the resulting flames a little; and – whoosh – up come the warming heat. 

    Do not wait for your partner to start loving you before you will love them.  That’s crazy.  Become the source of love in your relationship, and watch the magical results!

    Take responsibility for the state of your relationship.  “If there’s a problem here, then I am responsible”.  Nobody’s coming on a cuffing white charger to rescue your relationship.  Get stuck in and sort it out. 

    Successful lovers are ‘givers’.  Unsuccessful lovers are like vampires.  They are looking to suck some kind of benefit out of their partner.  This is the wrong way around.  Your partner will flee from vampire behaviour.  

Copyright (c), Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, 2015

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Couples therapy with a counsellor - Couples therapy in the form of self-help

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♣ New Writing on Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT).***

Annex D5: Personality adaptations in CENT counselling theory; and the relationship between thinking, feeling and behaviour in REBT and TA…

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♣ Hundreds of web pages*** on various aspects of counselling, therapy, coaching, stress, diet, meditation, physical exercise, personal development… Free informational pages.***

 

♣ Anger management*** counselling.

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10 Principles of Anger Management 

Dr Jim Byrne has created a range of approaches to anger management.  You can learn those principles by consulting him for anger management counselling and therapy, in Hebden Bridge, or by long-distance communication (telephone or Skype) from any part of the world; or by using his anger-management self-help resource pack.  Here is one of the core principles that Dr Byrne teaches in his anger management practice:

Principle 3: An angry reaction to frustration or insult is a manifestation of the fight response which is innate in all animals.  But you cannot fight a traffic jam, or too many emails, or a clever insult.  Therefore, you have to rewire yourself to respond with something other than anger in those situations where anger will not guide you into the right course of action.  The first piece of rewiring that you could befit from is this:

Teach yourself, over and over again, to accept the things you cannot change and to only try to change the things which are fairly clearly changeable.

And teach yourself to laugh off insults and affronts!  This will rob your adversaries of the victory of seeing how much they upset you!

 

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Copyright (c) Dr Jim Byrne, 2015

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Anger management counselling - Anger management self-help 

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♣ Stress*** counselling.

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Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.2: 

In CENT counselling, we attempt to teach our clients to face up to their problems; to ‘complete’ their experience of them; and to ‘re-frame’ them.  But many clients don’t want to know about their problems: “Most of us are not (wise enough to face up to having problems). Fearing the pain involved, almost all of us, to a greater or lesser degree, attempt to avoid problems.  We procrastinate, hoping that they will go away.  We ignore them, forget them, pretend they do not exist.  We even take drugs to assist us in ignoring them, so that by deadening ourselves to the pain we can forget the problems that cause the pain.  We attempt to skirt around problems rather than meet them head on.  We attempt to get out of them rather than suffer through them”.

This is the road to hell!  We have to face up to and digest our problems – and counselling and therapy provide opportunities and support for this kind of digestion process!

M. Scott Peck (1983/1990) The Road Less Travelled: The new psychology of love, traditional values and spiritual growth.  Page 14. (16)

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 ♣ Counselling and therapy for depression.***

 

♣ Counselling and therapy for anxiety.***

 

♣ Confidence*** counselling.

 

♣ Articles and papers*** by the Institute for CENT.

 

♣ Books*** by the institute for CENT.

 

♣ Links*** and resources.

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We also host the web pages of the Institute for CENT*** counselling. 

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19 principles of CENT Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy

(Being an extract from ‘What is CENT?’)

By Dr Jim Byrne: Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015

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In CENT counselling, we teach our clients a range of general principles of life which help them to better understand who they are, how they came to be the way they are, and how to change their lives for the better. In a broad sense, CENT was developed by Dr Jim Byrne over many years of study and application, in private practice with almost 800 counselling and psychotherapy clients. 

Here is just one example of the 19 core principles: 

Principle No.3: Third, the first five or six years of life are taken to be determinants of what kind of life the individual will live.  Very largely, the narratives, scripts and frames that the child learns and forms during this period – which manifest in the form of moods and emotional states, expectations, beliefs and habitual patterns of behaviour - will determine its trajectory through life, all other things being equal.  There is, of course, some degree of malleability of the human mind, and so what was once shaped badly (by dysfunctional relationship experiences) can to some extent be reshaped into a better form by subsequent ‘curative experiences’, with a love partner or with a counsellor or psychotherapist.

For more information about these 19 principles of counselling psychology and psychotherapy, please go to ‘What is CENT?’*** 

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♣ Book announcement: For counsellors, psychologists, psychotherapists, psychoanalysts, and discerning individual readers who like to read psychological thrillers, analysis of dramatic family history, and moving autobiography, this book is a rare treat:  Obedience and Revolt: Mysterious Roots of Half a Life: by Daniel O’Beeve.***

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 Distinguishing counselling and therapy from psychiatry

Counselling and psychotherapy help individuals to deal with their problems of daily living.  Counselling and therapy do not concern themselves with ‘the medical model’; we do not consider our client to be ‘sick’, or ‘mad’.  We see people as being stressed, wrestling with difficult problems, recovering from dysfunctional relationships in their family of origin, or in their later life; finding it difficult to manage strong emotions in difficult situations; and so on.

This is a million miles from the ‘medicalized’ madness of psychiatry; a pseudoscience which is harming the body-minds of all those people who come into contact with it.  Here’s the evidence:

Psychiatry and the Business of Madness:

An Ethical and Epistemological Accounting
by Bonnie Burstow, PhD
Published April 1, 2015 by Palgrave Macmillan

This latest book by Bonnie Burstow, PhD critiques psychiatry, and effectively annihilates any claims that the profession might have had legitimacy.

If you want to know what is wrong with psychiatry, then this is a great learning resource for you.

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See the brief review here: http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/04/book-review-psychiatry-business-madness-ethical-epistemological-accounting/

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A detailed forensic analysis of the childhood of Albert Ellis and the impact of his suffering on the shape of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT)

A_Wounded_Psychother_Cover_for_Kindle.jpg‘A Wounded psychotherapist’ is the latest (2013) book by Dr Jim Byrne.  It is an analysis of both the childhood of Dr Albert Ellis (the creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy [REBT]), and how some of those childhood experiences most likely gave rise to certain features of his later philosophy of psychotherapy.  If you have ever wondered what the roots of REBT might have been, then this is the book for you.  It explores the childhood difficulties of Albert Ellis, and links those difficulties forward to the ways in which REBT was eventually shaped.  It also identified the strengths and weaknesses of REBT, and proposes an agenda for reform of this radical system of psychotherapy.To read more, please go to: A Wounded Psychotherapist: Albert Ellis’s childhood and the strengths and limitations of REBT.***