ABC Coaching and Counselling Services offers professional counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services,
in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by telephone, email and Skype/webcam all over the world.
Plus some CPD courses and learning resources for counselling students; postgraduate students; qualified counsellors;
and self-help enthusiasts.
The ABC services are based upon the theory and practice of Cognitive
Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) - which incorporates CBT/REBT, depth psychology
and humanistic (client centred) approaches. More specifically, we integrate REBT/CBT, Transactional Analysis (TA), Narrative
Therapy, Attachment Theory, Object Relations, Zen Buddhism and Moral Philosophy.
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The home of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT), in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire,
♣ Dr Jim Byrne’s counselling, psychotherapy and coachingservices.***
To Jim: “…At our previous session, your main intervention had the precision of
an acupuncture needle hitting the spot. I felt a great sense of relief from depression and stress immediately.
I felt so light and free. Thank you. … See you next week”.
J.K.K., Wakefield, West Yorkshire. (Three sessions of F2F counselling
for emotional distress).
♣ Renata Taylor-Byrne’s counselling and coachingservices.***
“Thank you, Renata, for all the help you have given me in learning to think and feel in ways that were alien to me before I consulted you. I have been on a long
journey from suffering to joy!”
P.J.M., Sheffield, UK (Several consultations for a range of stuck issues, over a period of years).
Blog Post No.122: A counsellor blogs about CENT counselling, and how to promote a full and healthy
life by studying the right books in the right way…
Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.1:
health: Definitions for counselling clients – Part 4 of a list of identifying features of emotional health, developed
by Dr Oliver James. These are goals which are rarely achieved perfectly: No.5: When you are emotionally healthy, “You are adaptable, but without losing yourself.
When in social or professional situations which demand a measure of falsehood, you can put on a face to meet the faces that
you meet without losing your sense of authenticity. Your real self is as close as possible to the one you are presenting
to others, depending on what is feasible. For if a lie is necessary, you lie”.
Dr Oliver James (2014) How
to Develop Emotional Health. Page
In CENT counselling, we have reservations about some of Oliver James’
positions. Firstly, to lie when it is morally right to lie: that is okay. (The classic case is when you open your
front door and a mad axe-man asks you if there are any children in your house that he can kill. If there are any children
present, then [morally] you must lie through your teeth!) However, to lie when it would be immoral to lie, that would
be very bad (for you – in the longer term; and also for your society). To tell occasional ‘little white
lies’ for the sake of social cohesion is normally considered okay, also.
My second reservation is about the reference
to “your real self”. According to Robert Hobson (Forms of Feeling: The heart of psychotherapy): the
‘real self’ is a committee of sub-personalities, and not one of your sub-personalities.
Keep critically reviewing the
advice you get from others regarding how to be emotionally healthy! Become your own counsellor!
CENT counselling approach to Couples Therapy involves a combination of models, theories and techniques which come from some
of the best approaces to helping couples to develop happy relationships that we have been able to identify over a fifteen
year period. Here is an example of one of the couple relationship principles that we teach:
Principle 3. The best way to get love is to sincerely offer it to your partner.
In what ways could you offer love to your partner which you are not currently doing? “But”, I hear
you protest, “what love do I get from them?” That’s a really crazy way to do the sums. It’s
just like the person sitting in front of a cold and black stove, with a huge wooden log in their hands, and saying to the
stove: “If you give me some heat, I’ll give you this log!” Crazy! All they have to do is put
the log on the fire, and fan the resulting flames a little; and – whoosh – up come the warming heat.
Do not wait for your partner to start loving you before you will love them.
That’s crazy. Become the source of love in your relationship, and watch the magical results!
Take responsibility for the state of your relationship. “If there’s a problem
here, then I am responsible”. Nobody’s coming on a cuffing white charger to rescue your relationship.
Get stuck in and sort it out.
Successful lovers are ‘givers’.
Unsuccessful lovers are like vampires. They are looking to suck some kind of benefit out of their partner. This
is the wrong way around. Your partner will flee from vampire behaviour.
Copyright (c), Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, 2015
Jim Byrne has created a range of approaches to anger management. You can learn those principles by consulting him for
anger management counselling and therapy, in Hebden Bridge, or by long-distance communication (telephone or Skype) from any
part of the world; or by using his anger-management self-help resource pack. Here is one of the core principles that
Dr Byrne teaches in his anger management practice:
3: An angry reaction to frustration or insult is a manifestation of the fight response which is innate in all animals.
But you cannot fight a traffic jam, or too many emails, or a clever insult. Therefore, you have to rewire yourself to
respond with something other than anger in those situations where anger will not guide you into the right course of action.
The first piece of rewiring that you could befit from is this:
yourself, over and over again, to accept the things you cannot change and to only try to change the things which are fairly
And teach yourself to laugh off insults
and affronts! This will rob your adversaries of the victory of seeing how much they upset you!
Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.2:
In CENT counselling, we attempt to teach our clients to face up to
their problems; to ‘complete’ their experience of them; and to ‘re-frame’ them. But many clients
don’t want to know about their problems:
“Most of us are not (wise enough to face up to having problems). Fearing the pain involved, almost all of us, to a greater
or lesser degree, attempt to avoid problems. We procrastinate, hoping that they will go away. We ignore them,
forget them, pretend they do not exist. We even take drugs to assist us in ignoring them, so that by deadening ourselves
to the pain we can forget the problems that cause the pain. We attempt to skirt around problems rather than meet them
head on. We attempt to get out of them rather than suffer through them”.
This is the road to hell! We
have to face up to and digest our problems – and counselling and therapy provide opportunities and support for this
kind of digestion process!
M. Scott Peck (1983/1990) The Road Less Travelled: The new psychology of love, traditional
values and spiritual growth. Page 14. (16)
Dr Jim Byrne: Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015
In CENT counselling, we teach our clients a range of general principles of life which help them to better
understand who they are, how they came to be the way they are, and how to change their lives for the better. In a broad sense, CENT was developed by Dr Jim Byrne over many years
of study and application, in private practice with almost 800 counselling and psychotherapy clients.
Here is just one example of the 19 core principles:
No.3: Third, the first
five or six years of life are taken to be determinants of what kind of life the individual will live.Very largely, the narratives, scripts and
frames that the child learns and forms during this period – which manifest in the form of moods and emotional states,
expectations, beliefs and habitual patterns of behaviour - will determine its trajectory through life, all other things being
is, of course, some degree of malleability of the human mind, and so what was once shaped badly (by dysfunctional relationship
experiences) can to some extent be reshaped into a better form by subsequent ‘curative experiences’, with a love
partner or with a counsellor or psychotherapist.
For more information about these 19 principles of counselling psychology and psychotherapy, please go to‘What is CENT?’***
Distinguishing counselling and therapy from psychiatry
Counselling and psychotherapy help individuals to deal with their problems of daily living.
Counselling and therapy do not concern themselves with ‘the medical model’; we do not consider our client to be
‘sick’, or ‘mad’. We see people as being stressed, wrestling with difficult problems, recovering
from dysfunctional relationships in their family of origin, or in their later life; finding it difficult to manage strong
emotions in difficult situations; and so on.
This is a million miles from
the ‘medicalized’ madness of psychiatry; a pseudoscience which is harming the body-minds of all those people who
come into contact with it. Here’s the evidence:
‘A Wounded psychotherapist’ is the latest (2013) book by Dr Jim Byrne. It is an analysis
of both the childhood of Dr Albert Ellis (the creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy [REBT]), and how some of those
childhood experiences most likely gave rise to certain features of his later philosophy of psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what the roots of REBT might have been, then this is the book for you. It explores
the childhood difficulties of Albert Ellis, and links those difficulties forward to the ways in which REBT was eventually
shaped. It also identified the strengths and weaknesses of REBT, and proposes an agenda for
reform of this radical system of psychotherapy.To read more, please go to: A Wounded Psychotherapist: Albert Ellis’s childhood and the strengths and limitations
ABC Coaching and
Counselling Services - Hebden Bridge - West Yorkshire - UK
27 Wood End, Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK
Telephone 01422 843 629 (or 44 1422 843 629 from outside the UK)
Services available as follows: Face to face in Hebden Bridge; or by telephone and email
all over the world.
"Helping individuals to overcome their
emotional, behavioural and relationship problems; and to be more effective in their public performance roles".
Promoting happiness and personal effectiveness.
Unless otherwise stated on these pages, all material appearing
on this website is copyright (c) Jim Byrne and/or Renata Taylor-Byrne, 2003-2012
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and psychotherapy services to help with all kinds of emotional, behavioural and relationship difficulties and problems; and
public performance difficulties. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, UK;
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ABC Coaching and Counselling
services is the home of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) - which is an integration of Rational Emotive Behaviour
Therapy (REBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Narrative therapy, Attachment theory, Zen Buddhist philosophy, Stoic philosophy,
Moral philosophy, and several other systems.