ABC Coaching and Counselling Services offers professional counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services,
in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by telephone, email and Skype/webcam all over the world.
Plus some CPD courses and learning resources for counselling students; postgraduate students; qualified counsellors;
and self-help enthusiasts.
The ABC services are based upon the theory and practice of Cognitive
Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) - which incorporates CBT/REBT, depth psychology
and humanistic (client centred) approaches. More specifically, we integrate REBT/CBT, Transactional Analysis (TA), Narrative
Therapy, Attachment Theory, Object Relations, Zen Buddhism and Moral Philosophy.
Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK
counselling and Skypewebcam counselling all over the English speaking world.
for individuals with good English writing skills, who are not seriously emotionally disturbed.
coaching for counselling and psychotherapy students.
Overview of site content: Counselling and coaching services; and counselling
and coaching training courses and informational resources; including video format. Face to face coaching and counselling services;
telephone counselling; email counselling; skype counselling; performance coaching; psychotherapy; couples therapy; books on
counselling, and on anxiety, anger management, stress management, and happiness. Confidence counselling and coaching: Assertiveness;
self confidence; self acceptance. Happiness coaching and positive psychology. Counselling research; and counselling supervision.
Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT); Rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT); Cognitive emotive narrative therapy (CENT);
Transactional analysis (TA); Object relations and attachment theory; Zen Buddhism and moral philosophy. Training for
counsellors; Articles and papers on CENT counselling. Counselling diploma assignments. Copy of counsellor's
doctoral thesis. The institute for CENT (cognitive emotive narrative therapy). Pages on attachment theory, meditation,
narrative therapy, writing therapy, anger, anxiety, depression, stress, stoic philosophy for counsellors, and much more besides.
Coaching and Psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, HX7, near Halifax, West Yorkshire,
via telephone, email and Skype...
Are you looking for counselling, coaching or
psychotherapy help with difficult problems, at home or at work? If so, we can help!
We provide high quality help in the form of face-to-face counselling, psychotherapy and coaching
- in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire - and by telephone or email counselling all over the world.
can help you to solve your problems and improve the quality of your life!
In addition toprofessional
counselling and coaching services, we also offer some books, information packs and training courses in counselling and
"A single conversation across the table with a wise person is worth a month's study
Together we can rewrite the story you're living!
The home of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT)
Integrating Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT/REBT) with Transactional
Analysis (TA), Psychoanalysis, Attachment theory, Narrative therapy, Buddhist, Stoic and Moral philosophies, and Critical
Dr Jim Byrne
provides counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, HX7, West Yorkshire. He helps
individuals and couples with problems of couple relationships, anger management, stress management, anxiety and panic, depression
and despondency, and with insecure attachment problems.
♣ “Dear Jim, I feel very much better than I did a year
ago, and that is mostly down to coming here, to talk to you. And since we did the work on releasing from my dad, the
quality of my relationships with men has improved dramatically”.
P.A.J., Greater Manchester, (39 sessions of face to face counselling for a range of emotional problems).
Brief video introduction to Jim's approach to counselling:
Renata Taylor-Byrne provides coaching and counselling services to individuals who want to develop
their assertiveness skills; improved communication; stress management skills; self-awareness; self-presentation in public
performances; self-discipline, including in the areas of physical exercise, diet and mind control; and many other areas.
“Thank you, Renata, for all the help you have given me in learning
to think and feel in ways that were alien to me before I consulted
you. I have been on a long journey from suffering to joy!”
P.J.M., Sheffield, UK (Several consultations for a range of stuck issues,
over a period of years).
video introduction to Renata's coaching style:
and Psychotherapy Quotation No.1:
counselling, we teach our clients that they co-constructed a story of their childhood, in partnership with their parents and
others: “These co-constructed narratives
are central to all human groups – from a family in the western world to the hunter-gatherers of the Kalahari Desert.
The co-construction of story has negative and positive outcomes. The downside is that the parental figure(s) can unduly
influence the child with his or her own fears and anxieties, prejudices and restrictive patterns of being; but the upside
is that co-forming narrative teaches ways of memorizing, as well as imparting positive values, group culture and individual
Philippa Perry, How to Stay Sane (2012). Page 71-72. (10b)
Dr Jim Byrne: Of these positive aspects of co-constructed narratives within the family, passing on a moral approach to life
is one of the most important; alongside teaching the child/individual that that they are valued and loved. When any
of these positive aspects of shared narratives is missing from a child’s life, there is a need for therapeutic correction
later in life.
About my Couples therapy service: I have studied, and now teach, some
of the most potent approaches to developing effective human relationships, including couple relationships and marriages. I
have helped many couples to save their relationships from disaster.
If you want
to be happy in a secure, affectionate, adult love relationship, then I can help you to learn. Go to Couples Therapy page.***
18 Principles of Couples Therapy
CENT counselling approach to Couples Therapy involves a combination of models, theories and techniques which come from some
of the best approaces to helping couples to develop happy relationships that we have been able to identify over a fifteen
Here is an example of
one of the couple relationship principles that we teach our counselling clients:
Principle 5.It is important to distinguish between your partner on the one hand and their
behaviour on the other!Then you can more easily accept your partner unconditionally (or, rather, one-conditionally), while wishing, desiring and
even requesting that they please change the specific behaviour that causes you a problem.(You do not have an absolute right to demand that your partner change any of their behaviours, and if you proceed on the assumption that you have such a right,
you will have a great deal of misery in your marital relationship).Can you think of an incident recently where you condemned your partner for engaging in behaviour(s) that you did not like, instead of merely objecting
to their behaviour?Do you know what you could have done which would have been more effective?(If you answer 'No' to this question, then you could benefit from discussing One-conditional Self- and
Other-Acceptance with Jim! And also self assertion techniques).
 The one condition that you should apply to your partner’s behaviour, and your own, is
that it should be moral (and legal). Apart from that one condition, you should otherwise accept them and yourself unconditionally.
I call this approach ‘one-conditional acceptance’.
About my Anger Management Counseling service: Many people come to see me with problems of anger,
at home and/or at work. They find that they have a short fuse when they are frustrated by others; or when others cause
them to look foolish; or when people behave badly when they should know better.
I have helped many people to reduce their
angry responses to a more reasonable level, by working with them on how to think and feel cooler and calmer when facing difficulties,
like insults, threats, or frustrations.
Others come from
families in which anger was modelled for them as a legitimate way to solve conflicts of opinion. However, they later
find that enflaming their feelings of anger - and acting on those feelings of anger - does not work in the wider world.
10 Principles of Anger Management
Dr Jim Byrne has created a range of approaches to anger management. You can learn those principles
by consulting him for anger management counselling and therapy, in Hebden Bridge, or by long-distance communication (telephone
or Skype) from any part of the world; or by using his anger-management self-help resource pack. Here is one of the core
principles that Dr Byrne teaches in his anger management practice:
4: Anger is most often a ‘false friend’.
a life threatening situation, act first and think later – but most of the situations in which we become angry are far
from life threatening!)
Anger whispers in your ear that
you are right and the other person is wrong; that you are being taken advantage of or abused; and the other person must be
punished for this transgression. Very often, this is not the only way to look at the situation. But this is often
a false statement!
The other person may be unaware of the fact
that they are causing you a problem. And/or: The problem they are causing you may be of a kind that you also, in your
turn, unavoidably cause to other people – and you would not want them to get angry with for this
So don’t automatically trust the voice of anger-inducement
in your ear. Challenge it. Ask yourself: Is this true? Is there a better way of looking at the
situation? Will getting angry really help me in any significant way? Or will it actually make matters worse?
Stress can manifest as a constant feeling of inability to cope with the
pressures of life, at home or at work. In fact, a good definition of stress is this:
Stress = Pressure/Coping ability;
or stress equals pressure divided by your coping ability.
The higher your level of coping ability, the more pressure you can handle before your
stress level begins to feel like distress.
Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.2:
clients are suffering from ‘status distress’, as they measure themselves against the earning-power, possessions,
visual appearance and celebrity of their peers and neighbours: “We have become absolutely obsessed with measuring ourselves and others through the distorted lens
of (crass materialist) Affluenza values. Those values are nothing new. They go back at least as far as 10,000
BC, ever since the introduction of private property. They were more or less rife amongst the elites of Mesopotamia,
Egypt and Rome, not to mention the course of European monarchs in subsequent centuries. What has changed fundamentally
is that since the 1970s, they have become ubiquitous. The great majority of people in English-speaking nations (Britain,
America, Australia, Canada, Singapore) now define their lives through earnings, possessions, appearances and celebrity, and
those things are making them miserable because they impede the meeting of our fundamental needs”.
Oliver James (2007) Affluenza: How to be
successful and stay sane. Page xvi. (37)
Depression is a painful, discouraging and draining condition. Life looks bleak
and dull, and bad feelings seem to fill our bodies as well as our minds. Sometimes individuals become depressed because
they get stuck in the grieving process. That is to say, they lose something or someone significant to them, and thus
they need to engage in appropriate sadness. But they push the sadness away, and get stuck with long term depression
instead of short term sadness. The trick with grief is to feel the sense of loss keenly, and thus to complete it.
This is what I teach my counselling
clients about anxiety: When individuals are confronted with an apparent threat or
danger, just up ahead, they have an automatic, instinctive tendency to respond with "fight" or "flight".
If you have a problem with social anxiety, then you are attempting to flee from the threat of being judged, or appearing in
a bad light, in a public place. If you are suffering from performance anxiety, in public roles, or in interviews or
academic exams, then you are most likely telling yourself two things:
I must not fail because significant other people will
not like me, or accept me so much, and that would be unbearable; and/or:
I must not make any mistakes
in public, because I will not accept anything less than perfection from myself.
I can teach you a more empowering way of managing your life which you can then apply in those situations
in which you feel anxious.
and coaching for self-confidence issues should include these insights: The beginning of our loss of self-confidence is the beginning of the recognition that we are limited in our
abilities and skills, and sometimes other people perform better than we do in certain tasks.
We may also
compare our physical appearance, strength, voice, income level, and so on unfavourably with another person, and put ourselves
down (inappropriately) for our "poor showing".
In general, the destruction of our self-confidence begins when we decide
"I am an X and Ishouldbe
a Y", where X and Y can be any juxtaposed qualities, traits or personality features, or identification with particular
Dr Jim Byrne: Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015
In CENT counselling, we teach our clients a range of general principles of life which help them to better
understand who they are, how they came to be the way they are, and how to change their lives for the better. In a broad sense, CENT was developed by Dr Jim Byrne over many
years of study and application, in private practice with almost 800 counselling and psychotherapy clients.
Here is just one example of the 19 core principles:
No.3: Third, the
first five or six years of life are taken to be determinants of what kind of life the individual will live.Very largely, the narratives, scripts
and frames that the child learns and forms during this period – which manifest in the form of moods and emotional states,
expectations, beliefs and habitual patterns of behaviour - will determine its trajectory through life, all other things being
is, of course, some degree of malleability of the human mind, and so what was once shaped badly (by dysfunctional relationship
experiences) can to some extent be reshaped into a better form by subsequent ‘curative experiences’, with a love
partner or with a counsellor or psychotherapist.
For more information about these 19 principles of counselling psychology and psychotherapy, please go to‘What is CENT?’***
Distinguishing counselling and therapy from psychiatry
and psychotherapy help individuals to deal with their problems of daily living. Counselling and therapy do not concern
themselves with ‘the medical model’; we do not consider our client to be ‘sick’, or ‘mad’.
We see people as being stressed, wrestling with difficult problems, recovering from dysfunctional relationships in their family
of origin, or in their later life; finding it difficult to manage strong emotions in difficult situations; and so on.
This is a million miles from the ‘medicalized’ madness of psychiatry; a pseudoscience
which is harming the body-minds of all those people who come into contact with it. Here’s the evidence:
‘A Wounded psychotherapist’ is the latest (2013) book by Dr Jim Byrne. It is an analysis
of both the childhood of Dr Albert Ellis (the creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy [REBT]), and how some of those
childhood experiences most likely gave rise to certain features of his later philosophy of psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what the roots of REBT might have been, then this is the book for you. It explores
the childhood difficulties of Albert Ellis, and links those difficulties forward to the ways in which REBT was eventually
shaped. It also identified the strengths and weaknesses of REBT, and proposes an agenda for
reform of this radical system of psychotherapy.To read more, please go to: A Wounded Psychotherapist: Albert Ellis’s childhood and the strengths and limitations
Information about Counselling
Here are some video clips to help you to get
a flavour of the ABC Coaching and Counselling Services approach to counselling and therapy:
1. This first clip is
a brief introduction to Dr Jim Byrne, ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, and the counselling services on offer.
2. In this second clip, I describe the importance of taking responsibility for your own life, as
the essential foundation for any form of successful counselling process.
3. Here is a brief
introduction to Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT), which is the form of counselling and therapy created and used
by Dr Jim Byrne. There are at least 16 videos on the 16 Counselling Videos page.
4. This is Part 2 of 'What is Counselling?' It was produced by me to
update my statements about the way I think of counselling. In particular, I mention the importance of Attachment
Theory, and the counsellor being emotionally available to the client.
ABC Coaching and
Counselling Services - Hebden Bridge - West Yorkshire - UK
27 Wood End, Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK
Telephone 01422 843 629 (or 44 1422 843 629 from outside the UK)
Services available as follows: Face to face in Hebden Bridge; or by telephone and email
all over the world.
"Helping individuals to overcome their
emotional, behavioural and relationship problems; and to be more effective in their public performance roles".
Promoting happiness and personal effectiveness.
Unless otherwise stated on these pages, all material appearing
on this website is copyright (c) Jim Byrne and/or Renata Taylor-Byrne, 2003-2012
this site you will find lots of informational resources (mainly requiring an access fee) about coaching, counselling
and psychotherapy services to help with all kinds of emotional, behavioural and relationship difficulties and problems; and
public performance difficulties. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, UK;
and all over the world via the telephone system and by email.
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ABC Coaching and Counselling
services is the home of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) - which is an integration of Rational Emotive Behaviour
Therapy (REBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Narrative therapy, Attachment theory, Zen Buddhist philosophy, Stoic philosophy,
Moral philosophy, and several other systems.