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Professional counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by telephone, email and Skype/webcam all over the world.

Plus some CPD courses and learning resources for counselling students; postgraduate students; qualified counsellors; and self-help enthusiasts.


Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK

Telephone counselling and Skype-webcam counselling all over the English speaking world.

Email counselling for individuals with good English writing skills, who are not seriously emotionally disturbed.

Coaching, mentoring and advice for a range of problems..




Hello, and welcome to ABC Coaching and Counselling Services 

Your needs are our concern.  Your happiness is our goal.

Are you looking for help with emotional, behavioural, relationship or practical problems?  If so, then we can help you.



We are a creative partnership in coaching, counselling and psychotherapy, and we have developed a highly efficient and effective process which gives you hope, insights into your problems and their solutions, and increased self-mastery in your life.

Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Division

Renata’s Coaching and Counselling Division

What we offer


Our holistic process for helping you has been built out of a study of more than sixteen systems of coaching, counselling, psychotherapy and various philosophies of life.

Our process includes a directly warm and empathic relationship, combined with years of experience, backed up by extensive research, beginning in 1980 at the start of our partnership.

Our model is called Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT), and it integrates CBT, person-centred counselling, and emotive-systems (like Gestalt therapy and psychoanalysis, Attachment theory, and others).

And we relate to you as a sensitive emotional being, who also has some (limited) capacity to think.  But you can learn to think more effectively about your self, your life and your goals.

What is E-CENT?


Our holistic approach

We relate to you as a whole body-mind-environment.  This is important because:

# the gut is often implicated in what seem to be purely ‘mental problems’;

# physical tension is involved in feelings of anxiety;

# your level of physical exercise is more important than your belief system, all other things being equal;

# socially isolated individuals are more prone to emotional distress than individuals who are well connected;

# eating junk food can directly cause problems of anger and rage and aggression, independent of any psychological factors;

# and so on.

(But of course, in addition to those factors, we also teach you about the kinds of stories from the past that run your life, from ‘the basement’ of your mind.)

You are not a ‘floating head’, and we have developed the most recent system of holistic treatment that is currently available.

How to Apply CENT Counselling in Practice


We are committed to helping you

We are committed to finding out your needs and concerns and identifying suitable techniques and strategies to present to you as potential solutions.

Hundreds of individuals and couples have benefitted from working with us over the years.

The benefits of E-CENT coaching and counselling services

Working with one of us, you will quickly learn problem-solving strategies which can be used immediately to improve your life, and which you can continue to use for the rest of your life.

We provide a curative, healing and educational relationship within which you can work to transform your life.  And we also provide insights into some of the most relevant research that we have studied since 1980.

Contact one of us today.

Email: Dr Jim Byrne at ABC Counselling or Renata @ ABC Coaching

Or telephone us on: 01422 843 629 (or 44 1422 843 629 outside the UK)


Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy help, in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ.

And all over the world via the telephone, and email exchanges.


Established in 1998: Eighteen years of helping people with their emotional, behavioural and relationship problems; and their ability to think more clearly about what they want and how to get it.

Hello and welcome to ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, which is one of the most creative partnerships in coaching, counselling and psychotherapy – between Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne.

Even earlier: Since 1980, we have bought and read most of the really interesting new books on coaching, counselling and psychotherapy, and personal development and self-management. We have digested them thoroughly, and translated those rich texts into nuggets of gold for our clients.

What we offer: When coaching and counselling clients come to see us with their problems of daily living, we pass on to them the wisdom of the ages!



If you’re looking for relief from emotional suffering; help with relationships, or anger, or self-confidence; or highly rated help and guidance with virtually any kind of problem that you cannot resolve on your own; then you’ve come to the right place!

We can help you with practical problems; relationship problems; career problems; problems at home or at work; stress or anger problems; sadness, grief or depression; anxiety or worry; or how to get from where you are now (stuck) to where you want to be (happy and free).  

To review some of the benefits that you could gain by consulting us about your problems, goals and difficulties, please take a look at the following page: The benefits and outcomes of E-CENT coaching, counselling and therapy.*** 


ABC Coaching and Counselling Services was established in December 1998, by Dr Jim Byrne, who is a doctor of counselling from the University of Manchester, UK.  And since that time, we have helped hundreds of individuals to overcome their problems, achieve their goals, and to become happier, healthier and more relaxed. See the Client Testimonials page, here.***



Renata Taylor-Byrne joined the company, from Calderdale College, to establish her own coaching and counselling division, part time, in July 2012. And she is now full time.

At Calderdale College, Renata had run a range of counselling courses for many years; and also a range of personal effectiveness courses, including assertiveness training, confidence building, stress management, communication skills, and many more.

Jim and Renata jointly designed a range of courses at Calderdale College, back in the mid-1980s, including: Stress management; time management; confidence building; interpersonal communication; stress management; study skills; and so on. These courses were taught to every student, across all the college faculties.



Dr Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne provide a range of counselling, coaching and psychotherapy services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, UK, HX7 8HJ; and all over the world via telephone and email. 


Their services are based upon Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT) which is a fusion of Attachment Theory, Transactional Analysis (TA), Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CT, CBT), Psychoanalysis (and object relations),  Moral Philosophy, Narrative therapy, and many other elements. They both produce regular blogs, and informational papers.


To make an appointment, please call Renata or Jim today

on: 01422 843 629

Or email: Dr Jim Byrne or Renata Taylor-Byrne


For further information, please see:

# Jim’s Counselling and Psychotherapy services.***

# Renata’s Coaching and Counselling services.***


Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.1: 

We counsellors and clients have to face up to problems of loss and separation from loved ones; and to complete the sense of loss and pain – so that we can heal:  “Psychological problems arise when people use inappropriate ways of dealing with past hurts, especially those involving loss and separation.  Means of avoiding pain (avoidance-activities, customarily termed ‘mechanisms of defence’) can result in actions which hamper personal growth and the development of the dynamic relationship” of being with another person in “aloneness-togetherness”. 

Robert F. Hobson, Forms of Feeling: The heart of psychotherapy, Page 183. (71)

Dr Jim’s comment: In other words, if you do not face up to past pain, it may be impossible to form pain-free relationships in the present.


Unsolicited client testimonial 

♣ "Dear Dr Byrne, Many thanks for the great help and advice that you offered to my wife and me when we consulted you about the state of our marriage.  We both feel as if we have had a good servicing and overhaul of our thinking and feeling equipment.  Your insights about the way our childhood experiences meshed together - in that ‘avoidant-clinging' pattern - has been most helpful.  We no longer push each other's buttons the way we used to do, and we can reflect upon our own behaviours and be more realistically self-critical.  I will be in touch again soon for a top-up session..."

B.G., and D.G., Rochdale, Lancashire, UK. (Three sessions of face to face counselling for relationship conflict and attachment styles).



The home of Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)

Integrating: Attachment theory; Rational therapy; Psychodynamic (‘Object relations’) therapy; Cognitive therapy; Transactional analysis; Moderate Buddhist and Stoic philosophies; Narrative therapy; Moral philosophy; and other modalities; plus awareness of the importance of physical exercise, diet, relaxation, meditation, etc.


The 'cognitive revolution' is over.  The 'emotional revolution' has begun! The 'emotional dog' was never wagged by its 'cognitive tail'. The cognitive tail needs emotional input in order to wag.


Counselling and therapy as a system of helping clients with emotional, behavioural and relationship problems has been in a constant state of evolution and revolution from the moment Sigmund Freud published his first book. His two main followers abandoned him within a few years, to set up their own schools of therapy - Jungian and Adlerian therapies.  Before Freud had even died, Melanie Klein, who was trying to be a 'good Freudian' deviated so far from his views that he disowned her.  She had shifted the focus from adult sexuality to childhood stress and strain in relationship; but she saw the main problem as being the child's own 'phantasies' (or delusions) – (and this tradition has been carried on by Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck, in their own ways!).  One of Klein’s main students, or supervisees - John Bowlby, whose own experiences and researches led him to believe that it was the external environment which mainly upset the child - was rejected by Klein, and ostracized by British Psychoanalysis for about forty years. Today, Bowlby's theory (Attachment Theory) is one of the most reliable, accepted and validated theories of childhood development, in the world of developmental psychology, counselling and psychotherapy, and also in neuroscience, and especially in interpersonal neurobiology (IPN).  While Freud's theory was taking off in the US, a great resistance was mounted by the behaviourists, who rejected 'the mind' (and not just the non-conscious mind).  But as they were reaching their hey-day, one of their key researchers noticed that monkeys in 'behaviour reinforcement' experiments seemed to have a mind of their own.  Karl Pribram, however, made a false move next.  He concluded that what was going on in the mind of the monkey was 'thoughts'.  He failed to consider that his monkey might have 'feelings'.  So off went the bandwagon of the 'cognitive revolution'.  Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy in the lead, followed by Aaron Beck’s Cognitive Therapy, Meichenbaum, Arnie Lazarus, and so on.  All heading down the false trail which assumes that humans are primarily thinking beings (cognitive beings).  However, the refusal to take emotion into account was bound to fall apart eventually, and today we are facing the Emotional Revolution.  And our system of E-CENT (Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy) is in the vanguard of that revolution - though quite some distance behind Allan Schore and Daniel Siegel. 

Our clients are primarily emotional beings, who also have some limited capacity to think.  And they are also brain-mind-environment-wholes, who’s emotional and behavioural malfunctions or distortions are a product of diet, exercise, relaxation; current and historical relationships; environmental stressors; and so on.



Emotions and cognitions (or feelings and thoughts) are braided together, into the historical pathway trodden by each social-individual through their own cultural learning. But the feeling strand comes before, and is more powerful, in many ways, than the thinking strand.  When cultural education is effective the individual learns to moderate their emotional excesses by reasoning processes.

The braided strand of emotive-cognitive-behavioural-embodied-narrative-history - which makes up the core of each social-individual - cannot be dumped; or transformed by alchemy.  If it is maladaptive, then it has to be worked upon, unpicked, re-threaded, re-knitted, patched, and un-knotted.  And this work has to be done in the presence of a healing relationship, which corrects what went wrong in earlier relationships.  This takes time and patient analysis and re-thinking/re-feeling.


 Notice: We have recently changed the name of our sytem of counselling, coaching and psychotherapy from Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT).  See the Institute update.***  Obviously, given that this website has hundreds of pages, it may take many weeks (and possibly a few months!) before they can all be updated with the E-CENT label.


Dr. Allan Schore, is a clinician-scientist at the UCLA Center for Culture, Brain, and Development and the UCLA Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences. He is the author of three seminal volumes as well as numerous articles and chapters. His work has been an important catalyst in the ongoing "emotional revolution" now occurring across all clinical and scientific disciplines.

In E-CENT counselling, we teach our coaching and therapy clients that we are body-minds, and that the mind depends upon diet, exercise and relaxation, etc., in order to function properly: “To keep the body in good health is a duty – otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear”. 

The Buddha, from a quotation in Julia Cameron’s (1995) book, The Artist's Way: A Course in Discovering and Recovering Your Creative Self.


Dr Jim’s comment: The reason the Buddha is right to make this point is this: We are not minds that also have bodies!  We are actually body-minds.  And although it is possible to distinguish the body from the mind, it is not possible to separate them; ever.  And you cannot have a healthy mind (component) in an unhealthy body(-mind).


In E-CENT counselling, we are busy ‘adding back the body’ (to the ‘disembodied mind’).  In holistic medicine, progressive doctors are busy adding back the mind (to the material body).  For example: “When someone’s belly hurts”, writes Dr Thomas Delbanco, “I ask very quickly what’s going on in the mind as well as in the abdomen.  When someone is depressed, I think also about what might be going on in the body that’s leading to the depression.  Mind and body are inextricably woven together”.

Quoted in page 8 of Healing and The Mind, by Bill Moyers, London, Doubleday, 1995. (-3)

Dr Jim’s comments: I have treated a good number of men who have been depressed because of systemic candidiasis (or overgrowth of fungus in the gut), resulting from eating a junk-food diet high in sugar, salt and transfats.  Many of them also had problems with uncontrolable anger outbursts. I have treated some women who were anxious because of lack of physical exercise and overuse of caffeine and sugar. And I have had clients whose psychological symptoms were more directly related to life stressors, unworkable relationship arrangements, inadequate sleep, and so on. Sometimes the main problem is a result of what the individual thinks or believes; but life is most often much more complex than that! (-4)

"Follow your heart, but make sure you take your brain with you!" Alfred Adler
"The point is to integrate body-brain-mind-environment, and to manage all the components well, instead of elevating one of them to supreme position". Dr Jim Byrne 
Here's a little video clip by Dr Jim Byrne on the following subject: What is Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)? 


Hello and welcome to 

the Counselling and Psychotherapy Division 

of ABC Coaching and Counselling Services. 

My name is Jim Byrne, and I’m a doctor of counselling, from the University of Manchester.


I established ABC Coaching and Counselling Services in December 1998 with the following mission:

“Helping you to overcome your emotional, behavioural and relationship problems, and to have a happy life!”


My division engages in a range of activities which can be summarized as follows: ...

For more, please go to Dr Jim's counselling and psychotherapy division page.***


The Benefits of E-CENT counselling, coaching and psychotherapy

Here's a little video clip outlining some of the benefits of E-CENT:

To consult Jim in Hebden Bridge, for face-to-face counselling, please go to the Counselling in Hebden Bridge page.***




Hello, and welcome to 

the Coaching and Counselling Division 

of ABC Coaching and Counselling Services. My name is Renata Taylor-Byrne, and I'm a trained, experiened coach, counselor, mentor, teacher.

I established this division in July 2012, on a part-time basis, after spending more than thirty years as a full-time lecturer at Calderdale College, Halifax. 


I have extensive knowledge, experience and training in various aspects of helping individuals to grow and learn, and to solve their problems of daily living.

In July of this year (2015), I finished my work at Calderdale College, and joined ABC full time.

My division offers coaching and counselling services to individuals who want help achieving their goals in life and/or resolving their difficult problems.

Would you like me to help you with some of your current challenges? To understand how I might be able to help you, here's a brief, ten-minute video introduction to my system of helping:

To find out more, please go to: 

Renata Taylor-Byrne’s coaching and counselling services.***


Brief video introduction to Renata's coaching/counselling style:


MANHOOD: An action program to change your life

A Personal Development Group for Men in Hebden Bridge

By Dr Jim Byrne, November 2015



If you are a man – aged between 21 and 121 – then you may be interested in this new personal development program that I am offering with immediate effect, in Hebden Bridge, on Wednesday evenings from 7.00pm to 8.30pm, for seven weeks.

If you are feeling angry, anxious or depressed…

If you feel lost in the world…

If you feel burdened by your social relationship problems – with your father, your son(s), your partner, your ex-partner(s), or the other people in your life…

Then this group will definitely help you.



My decision to offer this seven week program was inspired by my recent reading of Steve Biddulph’s book – titled Manhood: An action plan for changing men’s lives.   This book begins with a startling bang:

“Most men don’t have a life.  Instead, we have just learned to pretend.  Much of what men do is an outer show, kept up for protection”. (Page 1)

What this quote implies is this: We are not particularly authentic.  We are not operating from our inner animal/spiritual core.  We are most likely operating from a fantasy of the ‘hard man’ who is never vulnerable; never weak; never in need of understanding; never in need of gentleness or loving kindness. And our emotional expression may be restricted to excessive or frequent anger or depression – but not much else besides; though perhaps anxiety is in there.

The diagnosis

Steve Biddulph’s analysis or diagnosis is this: We did not have enoughfathering; or enough fathering of the right kind.  We were not initiated into an adequate or accurate understanding of what it means to be “a man”. (Even if we are Jewish, and went through a Bar Mitzvah, we are not really ready for the transition from boyhood to manhood – except in the frozen, ‘let’s pretend’ mode described by Steve Biddulph.)  But most of our cultures and sub-cultures do not have formal or adequate ‘rites of initiation’ designed to take males from boyhood to manhood. 

For more information about this program, please go to The Men's Group page.***


Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.2:  

How are stories defined in narrative counselling and therapy? “Personal narratives, or ‘self-stories’, are not merely inert, neutral, passive images.  They have emotional resonance.  The continual process of self-storying activity feeds back into, and affects, people’s attitudes, actions, relationships and sense of identity”.

Martin Payne (2007) Narrative therapy: in Dryden’s Handbook of Individual Therapy, page 404. (72)

Dr Jim’s comment:  Stories are emotive-cognitive scripts; and involve thinking, feeling and acting; and they shape our self-concept and our values. And they are encoded in our body-brain-mind, and are not just auditory echoes in our heads.


Unsolicited Client Testimonial

♣ "Hi Jim, ... I cannot stress enough how important you have been in helping me through probably the hardest time of my life!  You clarified the issues and reassured me in equal measure, and guided me onto the right path for me to move forwards out of the darkness that surrounded me.  I know how important it is to keep going with my homework..."

C.T., Bradford, West Yorkshire, UK.  (Two sessions of face to face counselling for distress about deeply personal matters).



Information Pack regarding face-to-face counselling services...
Resource 4: Sixteen videos on counselling and psychotherapy
Self-help Resources - Division Three
The E-CENT Books page
Distance Learning Courses - Counselling-related
Couples therapy and Marriage guidance in Hebden Bridge
Web-based Informational and Learning Resource Packs on Counselling-related Topics...
Anger management counselling...
Telephone Counselling

Reduce social anxiety; performance anxiety; interview anxiety; exam anxiety, etc


Couples Therapy - A coaching/teaching/training approach

By Dr Jim Byrne – Doctor of Counselling

November 2015



My name is Jim Byrne, and I am a very happily married Doctor of Counselling.

I have been in private practice as a coach/ counsellor/ psychotherapist for more than sixteen years, in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire; and all over the world via the telephone and internet systems.

During that time, I’ve been pleased to help dozens and dozens of couples with all kinds of marriage, relationship and communication problems. 

Here are just three of the testimonials I’ve received from some of those couples:

♣ Email feedback: "Dear Jim, ... PS: We consulted you by telephone a few years ago, for relationship conflict, involving a very serious rift ... And we are now happily married with a nine month old child.  Your help was fantastic, and we still use the phrases and descriptions you used then.  In fact, we have a list of insights on a laminated poster on our living room wall, to keep us on the straight and narrow! We will always be grateful for those insights."  S.W. (and P.W), Sheffield. (Six sessions of telephone counselling [using speaker phone] for couple conflict and relationship advice).

... For more, please click the following link to go to my Couples Therapy page.*** 


Two options: If you would like some counselling or coaching help with your romantic/marital relationship, then try one of these options:

(1) Couples therapy with a counsellor - (2) Relationship course for couples 

Plus: Here's a brief video clip introduction to Dr Jim Byrne's approach to couples therapy and marriage counselling: 


Specialist Counselling-Supervision Service

For Couple's Therapists

By Dr Jim Byrne

Doctor of Counselling and Couples Therapist

November 2015



Although I am happy to work with counsellors and therapists from any discipline, or any area of specialism; I also have a special talent for helping couple therapists to handle the stresses and strains of their field of work.

So if you are a couple’s therapist, and you want to work with a supervisor who knows this field of work intimately, after sixteen years’ experience; and who has developed a structured approach to couples therapy which avoids conflict and stress, then I can help you.


Stress in the counselling room

It may be difficult for many people to believe, but the open secret in the world of counselling and therapy is that “couples therapy stresses out therapists”. (The New York Times, Elizabeth Weil, ‘Does couples therapy work?’ 2nd March 2012).


One of the insights of that article is this: most therapists are too soft and gentle to be able to manage the aggression that is brought to the counselling room by distressed couples.

Pearson and Bader, a couple of psychologists, from the Couples Institute in Palo Alto, California, describe the role of the counsellor with volatile couples as being “like piloting a helicopter in a hurricane”.

In Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT), we have evolved a highly structured approach to couples therapy, which locks the couple into a ‘gentle-person’s’ agreement to follow an agreed structure which prevents arguments, conflict, volatility, or overload of the counsellor. 


For further information, please click on the following link to to go my Specialist Counselling-Supervision Service For Couple's Therapists.***



Anger management counselling, coaching, psychotherapy and training

By Dr Jim Byrne

November 2015




Anger comes in various forms.

In its aggressive form anger is destructive.  Aggressive anger is a form ofuncontrolled rage and hostility, which can easily become physical aggression, conflict and assault of others – resulting in physical harm to others, or causing them to physically harm you!

In its assertive form anger is constructive.  Assertive anger stops you becoming a doormat for others.  It fuels your assertive communications to others, in which you ask for what you want, and say a strong ‘No’ to what you do not want.

There is also a passive-aggressive form, in which you put up with unreasonable behaviour, insults, etc., form others – each time collecting a hate-fuelled ‘brown stamp’, which goes in your mental stamp book. When you’ve collected enough of these passive brown-stamps, you flip from passive to aggressive mode, and you cash in your stamps in exchange for an explosive outburst of hostility and rage at the other person or persons.  This passive-aggressive form of anger is also, clearly destructive.


I can teach you how to reduce your destructive anger tendencies, and to only use your assertive anger tendencies, in a reasonable, productive way: Anger Management with Dr Jim.***




About my Anger Management Counseling service: Many people come to see me with problems of anger, at home and/or at work.  They find that they have a short fuse when they are frustrated by others; or when others cause them to look foolish; or when people behave badly when they should know better. 

I have helped many people to reduce their angry responses to a more reasonable level, by working with them on how to think and feel cooler and calmer when facing difficulties, like insults, threats, or frustrations.
Others come from families in which anger was modelled for them as a legitimate way to solve conflicts of opinion.  However, they later find that enflaming their feelings of anger - and acting on those feelings of anger - does not work in the wider world.  

10 Principles of Anger Management 

Dr Jim Byrne has created a range of approaches to anger management.  You can learn those principles by consulting him for anger management counselling and therapy, in Hebden Bridge, or by long-distance communication (telephone or Skype) from any part of the world; or by using his anger-management self-help resource pack.  Here is one of the core principles that Dr Byrne teaches in his anger management practice:

Principle 6: Avoid developing automatic, habitual anger triggers – because some situations that look like they justify anger actually do no such thing.  You may often feel affronted in situations where no affront exists and nothing needs to be done by you.  Some contexts in which doing nothing is called for – in which case you should let it go - include:

(1) Situations of chaos, in which nobody could be expected to have prevented the frustration or difficulty – for example, a busy motorway, or a crowded pavement, and somebody ‘gets in your way!’

(2) Lack of intent to offend on the part of the offending party.  Imagine you are boating on a foggy river.  I big white boat comes out of the fog.  It is heading straight towards your boat, and likely to cause a collision and some damage to your hull.  You become very angry. Then you notice that the boat has nobody on board – it is adrift!

Many people are just like that boat. Nobody on board!  Non-consciousness abounds.  Do not assume intentional offence as your default position.


Copyright (c) Dr Jim Byrne, 2015


Two options: If you are looking for coaching or counselling help to manage or control your anger, then try on of the following options:

(1) Anger management counselling - (2) Anger management self-help course  


Bonus: Anger Management Video: Dr Jim Byrne presents a video introduction to the theory and practice of E-CENT anger management counselling:


Stress can manifest as a constant feeling of inability to cope with the pressures of life, at home or at work.  In fact, a good definition of stress is this:

Stress = Pressure/Coping ability; or stress equals pressure divided by your coping ability.

The higher your level of coping ability, the more pressure you can handle before your stress level begins to feel like distress.



Depression is a painful, discouraging and draining condition.  Life looks bleak and dull, and bad feelings seem to fill our bodies as well as our minds.  Sometimes individuals become depressed because they get stuck in the grieving process.  That is to say, they lose something or someone significant to them, and thus they need to engage in appropriate sadness.  But they push the sadness away, and get stuck with long term depression instead of short term sadness.  The trick with grief is to feel the sense of loss keenly, and thus to complete it.
I began my counselling career as a Rational Emotiver Behaviour Therapist (REBT), but I have since moved on and become much broader-based; integrating several systems from the major schools of counselling and therapy.
I still rely on some of the insights of REBT in my work, but I would not focus down as hard as Dr Michael Edelstein on the belief component of the depression - and especially not his narrow focus on 'shoulds' and other 'demands'.  (See the video clip that follows).  I would also focus on the client's diet, level of physical exercise, relationships, attachment style, sleep pattern, 'attitude towards gratitude', vitamin D levels, and ways of building hope for the future.  (I might add several different elements to this list, depending upon the specific problem presented by the client, and their specific social circumstances).


♣ Counselling and therapy for anxiety.*** 

This is what I teach my counselling clients about anxiety: When individuals are confronted with an apparent threat or danger, just up ahead, they have an automatic, instinctive tendency to respond with "fight" or "flight".  If you have a problem with social anxiety, then you are attempting to flee from the threat of being judged, or appearing in a bad light, in a public place.  If you are suffering from performance anxiety, in public roles, or in interviews or academic exams, then you are most likely telling yourself two things:

I must not fail because significant other people will not like me, or accept me so much, and that would be unbearable; and/or:

I must not make any mistakes in public, because I will not accept anything less than perfection from myself.

I can teach you a more empowering way of managing your life which you can then apply in those situations in which you feel anxious.

Go to: Counselling and therapy for anxiety.*** 


And here's a little introductory video clip on anxiety:

Anxiety & Panic Counselling, Social Anxiety & Phobia Treatment, Generalised Anxiety Disorder Help

Our presentation discusses how panic attacks and anxiety are very common mental health issues that can affect anyone. The methods we use to manage our anxiety affect our emotions, our body and mind and our overall health as well as our quality of life:



♣ Confidence counselling.***

Counselling and coaching for self-confidence issues should include these insights: The beginning of our loss of self-confidence is the beginning of the recognition that we are limited in our abilities and skills, and sometimes other people perform better than we do in certain tasks. 

We may also compare our physical appearance, strength, voice, income level, and so on unfavourably with another person, and put ourselves down (inappropriately) for our "poor showing". 

In general, the destruction of our self-confidence begins when we decide "I am an X and I should be a Y", where X and Y can be any juxtaposed qualities, traits or personality features, or identification with particular behaviours. For example, "I am short, and I should be tall!"; "I am fat, and I should be thin!"

Go to: Confidence counselling.*** 


Confidence video: What follows is a little video clip titled, Beyond "Self Esteem" - How to Feel Self Worth: 3-Minute Therapy, with Dr. Christina Hibbert:


Jim Byrne produces an occasional blog on subjects related to: counselling and psychotherapy; wisdom; and personal development; including helpful books, quotes and insights.  The current blog can be found here: A counsellor blogs about various topics***


♣ New Writing on Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT).***

For example: Annex D5: Personality adaptations in E-CENT counselling theory; and the relationship between thinking, feeling and behaviour in REBT and TA… Also, reviews of the models of mind produced by Plato, Freud, Melanie Klein, aAlbert Ellis, nd many others...


♣ Hundreds of web pages*** on various aspects of counselling, therapy, coaching, stress, diet, meditation, physical exercise, personal development… Free informational pages.***


♣ Articles and papers*** by the Institute for E-CENT.


♣ Books*** by the institute for E-CENT.


♣ Links*** and resources.


We also host the web pages of the Institute for E-CENT*** counselling. 


19 principles of E-CENT Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy

(Being an extract from ‘What is E-CENT?’)

By Dr Jim Byrne: Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015


In E-CENT counselling, we teach our clients a range of general principles of life which help them to better understand who they are, how they came to be the way they are, and how to change their lives for the better. In a broad sense, E-CENT was developed by Dr Jim Byrne over many years of study and application, in private practice with almost 800 counselling and psychotherapy clients. 

Here is just one example of the 19 core principles: 

Principle No.3Third, the first five or six years of life are taken to be determinants of what kind of life the individual will live.  Very largely, the narratives, scripts and frames that the child learns and forms during this period – which manifest in the form of moods and emotional states, expectations, beliefs and habitual patterns of behaviour - will determine its trajectory through life, all other things being equal.  There is, of course, some degree of malleability of the human mind, and so what was once shaped badly (by dysfunctional relationship experiences) can to some extent be reshaped into a better form by subsequent ‘curative experiences’, with a love partner or with a counsellor or psychotherapist.


For more information about these 19 principles of counselling psychology and psychotherapy, please go to ‘What is E-CENT?’*** 


♣ Book announcement: For counsellors, psychologists, psychotherapists, psychoanalysts, and discerning individual readers who like to read psychological thrillers, analysis of dramatic family history, and moving autobiography, this book is a rare treat:  Obedience and Revolt: Learning to conform: by Daniel O’Beeve.***


♣ Distinguishing counselling and therapy from psychiatry



Day 13 of the E-CENT Stress Management Counselling Program

Eat a balanced diet

by Dr Jim Byrne (copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2001, 2009, 2011, 2012 - Updated 24 January 2016)

DrJim-in-Harrogate-3.jpgThere is no universal agreement about the precise kind of diet which will promote or reduce stress, although we have some pretty good ideas of some of the major culprits, and some of the main forms of ‘best practice'.  As with other forms of healthy eating, it is advisable to eat lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.  (Many experts recommend the 'Mediterranean diet').  Eating organic foods is one way of minimizing the chemical pollutants that get into our bodies and impair our ability to function healthily in the face of the pressures and strains of daily life, according to Bart Cunningham, PhD.[1]   There is also recent research which suggests a link between trans-fats (including hydrogenated fats in processed foods) and aggression, irritability and impatience.  (See Scientific American article, 'High trans-fats predicts aggression'.***)

The Stress Management Society gives the following advice: "If you want a strong nervous system, boost your intake of vitamins B, C and E, together with minerals magnesium and zinc. The best source of these nutrients is from food, rather than supplements. So eat a balanced diet of meat, nuts, seeds, fresh fruit and vegetables and oily fish. If you need to snack during the day, try pumpkin or sunflower seeds and fruit, particularly bananas. Fresh organic food is the best source. If you can’t get fresh, frozen vegetables are a reasonable alternative as much of their nutritional content is retained." Source: 

We suggest you follow most of this advice, except for the supplementation of vitamins and minerals.  Unless you are on a wholly organic diet, your food will be largely denatured and devoid of much nutritional value; therefore you need to use vitamin and mineral supplements of a good, natural-source quality.


PS: We have recently found good results from the Paloe Diet; and some of our clients have gained relief from the Gluten Free diet; and others from the Low-FOFMAP diet.


For more, please go to our Stress and Anxiety Diet page.***


Video Introdeuction:
The Paleo Diet Explained - The Original Human Diet and Your Health

The Diet Doctor interviews Professor Loren Cordain, one of the key theorists involved in promoting the Paleo diet. 

Content: What is the Paleo diet and why should you care? Well, it's the original human diet and it's probably still the healthiest way you could eat.


Counselling needs the support of physical exercise: reviewing the benefits


CENT Paper No.18: Exercise is good for your body, brain and general health

By Renata Taylor Byrne and Jim Byrne


Spark.cover.1.jpgIf you have ever done any form of systematic physical exercise, of eastern or western origin, you will have experienced some of the physical and mental benefits of that practice.  Your body takes in more oxygen and you burn off stress hormones.  You secrete endorphins, or ‘happiness chemicals' in your brain.  You just know it's good for you, and that it's pleasurable.

Or, as expressed by Jeannine Stamatakis, a physical trainer in San Francisco: "There is no denying the high you feel after a run in the park or a swim at the beach.  Exercise not only boosts your physical health - as one can easily see by watching a marathon or a boxing match - but it also improves mental health". (Scientific American Mind, Vol.23. No.3, July/August 2012; page 72).

However, the tendency towards laziness, which is endemic in each of us, tends, over time, to drag us back to inactivity - to couch potato status.  This is one of the problems.  It takes real commitment and determination to exercise our bodies day after day after day.  And that is what is required, because the benefits of physical exercise, which are actually remarkable, drain away after only a few days of inactivity.

If you know that physical exercise is good for you, and you want to be able to discipline yourself to keep at it, then I can help:

That was why we were so excited about finding a wonderful book - Spark: How exercise will improve the performance of your brain- because it gives us dozens of good reasons to keep persisting in our daily exercise.  (The authors are Dr John Ratey and Eric Hagerman; and the book was published by Quercus, in London, in 2009).

In this brief paper, we will review about one dozen of those good reasons. 

...End of extract.  For more, please go to How exercise will improve the performance of your brain...***


What follows is a little video clip by Brian Johnson.  Titled: Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by John Ratey 


Johnson writes: Exercise is huge. It's scientifically proven to be as effective as Zoloft in reducing depression and it boosts creativity, learning and our overall mojo. Fact is, our genes our encoded to move. As Ratey says, "It's an indispensable tool for anyone who wants to reach his or her full potential." Here's a quick look at 'The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain.' 

A detailed forensic analysis of the childhood of Albert Ellis and the impact of his suffering on the shape of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT)

A_Wounded_Psychother_Cover_for_Kindle.jpg‘A Wounded psychotherapist’ is the latest (2013) book by Dr Jim Byrne.  It is an analysis of both the childhood of Dr Albert Ellis (the creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy [REBT]), and how some of those childhood experiences most likely gave rise to certain features of his later philosophy of psychotherapy.  If you have ever wondered what the roots of REBT might have been, then this is the book for you.  It explores the childhood difficulties of Albert Ellis, and links those difficulties forward to the ways in which REBT was eventually shaped.  It also identified the strengths and weaknesses of REBT, and proposes an agenda for reform of this radical system of psychotherapy.To read more, please go to: A Wounded Psychotherapist: Albert Ellis’s childhood and the strengths and limitations of REBT.***

Information about Counselling

Here are some video clips to help you to get a flavour of the ABC Coaching and Counselling Services approach to counselling and therapy:
1. This first clip is a brief introduction to Dr Jim Byrne, ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, and the counselling services on offer.2. In this second clip, I describe the importance of taking responsibility for your own life, as the essential foundation for any form of successful counselling process.


3. Here is a brief introduction to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)


4. This is Part 2 of 'What is Counselling?'  It was produced by me to update my statements about the way I think of counselling.  In particular, I mention the importance of Attachment Theory, and the counsellor being emotionally available to the client.


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