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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
Helping individuals to grow and thrive
Counselling and Coaching
for you: Trust us to solve your problems!
Are you looking for counselling, coaching or psychotherapy help with difficult problems, at home or at work?
If so, we can help!
We provide high
quality help in the form of face-to-face counselling, psychotherapy and coaching - in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire - and
by telephone or email counselling all over the world.
We can help you to
solve your problems and improve the quality of your life!
In addition to professional
counselling and coaching services, we also offer some books, information packs and training courses in counselling and
related subjects; ...
single conversation across the table with a wise person is worth a month's study of books".
Together we can rewrite the story you're living!
Counselling and Coaching Quotation No.1: Philosophy
In CENT counselling, we teach that life is far from being meaningless, from a common
sense perspective: “It is in (the)
process of meeting and solving problems that life has its meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes
between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our
wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually. When we desire to encourage the
growth of the human spirit, we challenge and encourage the human capacity to solve problems, just as in school we deliberately
set problems for our children to solve. It is through the pain of confronting and resolving problems that we learn.
As Benjamin Franklin says, ‘Those things that hurt, instruct’. It is for this reason that wise people
learn not to dread but actually to welcome problems and actually to welcome the pain of problems”.
Discussing your problems with
a helpful and accepting counsellor is one way to resolve them.
M. Scott Peck (1983/1990) The Road Less Travelled: The new psychology
of love, traditional values and spiritual growth. Page 14. (7)
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services presents Part 3 of a list of features of emotional health
– developed by Dr Oliver James. These are ideas to strive for. Almost nobody ever achieves them perfectly: No.3: When you are emotionally healthy, “You have your own
consistent ethical code which enables you to distinguish right from wrong. You are stoical in the face of adversity,
realistic in your ideas and often seem to be wise in your judgements. You have the capacity for insight into your own
actions. You can sometimes spot in advance when you are about to make a mistake and avoid it, or can see when you are
reacting irrationally to a situation and correct yourself – so having crashed the car, you do not do it again; you can
notice that the lights have changed or a wall is approaching, and turn the steering wheel. This gives you that nectar
of the soul, the capacity for choice, and therefore, for change. Such self-awareness is what sets us apart from other
animals”. All of this can be gained from successful counselling and therapy.
Oliver James (2014) How to
Develop Emotional Health. Page 1. (8)
Counselling and coaching work:
The solution to your problem is here!
services are organized as follows:
# Dr Jim’s counselling and psychotherapy services:
Face-to-face in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire;
By telephone all over the world;
By email all over the world;
Via Skype/webcam all over the world.
# Renata’s coaching and counselling service:
Face to face in Hebden Bridge: Currently fully
What is Coaching?
A video clip by Renata Taylor-Byrne:
Click the image
above, or click the following link to see this video clip at YouTube: What is Coaching.***
# Dr Jim’s specialisms:
1. Couples therapy:
Face to face in Hebden Bridge; or via email, telephone or Skype;
Self-help resource pack for successful relationships.
2. Anger management counselling:
Face to face in Hebden Bridge; or via telephone counselling or via Skype/webcam;
Self-help resource pack for managing anger.
3. Anxiety, panic, OCD or depression:
Face to face counselling in Hebden Bridge; or via telephone; or by Skype/webcam connection; for anxiety, panic, OCD;
resource pack for anxiety;
Face to face counselling in Hebden Bridge; or via telephone; or by Skype/webcam connection; for depression;
Self-help resource pack for depression.
4. Other specialisms include: confidence and self-esteem; stress management;
Please click to go to The Counselling Division for details.
Counselling and therapy related publications:
1. Books on Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) related subjects – including Stress, Happiness, Coping with the
Christmas Blues, The Childhood of Albert Ellis, and the childhood of Daniel O’Beeve.
2. Articles and papers on Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) – including a few on Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy
(REBT); the social roots of the human individual; the CENT approach to narrative counselling, reframing, and models of the
1. New Writing on CENT.
2. Dr Jim’s Counselling Blog.
currently are playing host to the Institute for CENT.
4. Links and resources.
5. Site map.
Counselling and Coaching Quotation No.2: Philosophy of counselling:
CENT counselling has moral philosophy at its core, and we also include a good deal of Stoicism. However, we have
recently begun to recognize that you can take Stoicism too far, and not all humans are capable of the almost super-human standards
of Zeno, Seneca, Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, and so on. So we like to point at Stoicism as a possibility to choose to
strive for, but we like to create a 'soft landing' for those clients who cannot reach that far (at the moment!)
my counselling clients need anger management help, one of the things I might do is to teach them some of the Stoic approaches
to controlling anger. For example:
“The Stoics … recommended that we use humour to deflect insults. Cato cracked a joke when someone spit
in his face, as did Socrates when somebody boxed his ears. Seneca suggests that besides being an effective response
to an insult, humour can be used to prevent ourselves from becoming angry: ‘Laughter’, he says, ‘and a lot
of it, is the right response to the things which drive us to tears!’ The idea is that by choosing to think of
the bad things that happen to us as being funny rather than outrageous, an incident that might have angered us can instead
become a source of amusement. Indeed, one imagines that Cato and Socrates, by using humour in response to an insult,
not only deflected the insult but prevented themselves from getting angry at the person who had insulted them”.
(2009) A Guide to the Good Life: The ancient art of stoic joy. Page 162. (9).
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Video Introduction to CENT counselling and therapy:
For a quick introduction to CENT counselling, as practiced at ABC Coaching
and Counselling Services, please watch the following (6 minute, downloadable) video clip, by clicking the screen that follows:
Or click THIS LINK***
|Principles of CENT Anger Management Counselling|
By Dr Jim Byrne
Anger is one of the main emotions that humans feel in certain kinds of
stressful situations. The other two are anxiety and depression.
is the emotion that corresponds to the ‘fight response’ when an animal or human feels threatened, or (in the case
of humans), seriously frustrated by another person, or insulted by somebody, or confronted by the bad behaviour of others.
In civilized societies, anger can be appropriate to the circumstances surrounding
the angry individual, or excessive and aggressive.
to teach our clients how to manage their anger appropriately, we have evolved a set of principles which can help to summarize
coping self-talk, and coping actions.
Here is one such
Principle 6: Avoid developing automatic,
habitual anger triggers – because some situations that look like they justify anger actually do no such thing.
You may often feel affronted in situations where no affront exists and nothing needs to be done by you. Some contexts
in which doing nothing is called for – in which case you should let it go - include:
(1) Situations of chaos, in which nobody could be expected
to have prevented the frustration or difficulty – for example, a busy motorway, or a crowded pavement, and somebody
‘gets in your way!’
(2) Lack of intent to
offend on the part of the offending party. Imagine you are boating on a foggy river. I big white boat
comes out of the fog. It is heading straight towards your boat, and likely to cause a collision and some damage to your
hull. You become very angry. Then you notice that the boat has nobody on board – it is adrift!
Many people are just like that boat. Nobody on board! Non-consciousness abounds. Do not
assume intentional offence as your default position.
For information about our Anger Management self-help resource pack, please go to http://www.abc-counselling.com/id84.html
for anger management counselling with Dr Jim Byrne, please go to the Counselling Division.***
Here are some video clips to help you to get a flavour of the ABC Coaching and Counselling
Services approach to counselling and therapy:
|Coaching and counselling quote No.3: Philosophy
of counselling: |
Counselling and therapy are not just about talking. In the
course of therapy, the brain of the client becomes re-wired! “Good psychotherapy does not just boost self-esteem – it changes brains. PET scan
studies clearly show improved cerebral blood flow after therapy for depression. Insight-oriented psychotherapy may literally
rewire the brain, boosting the synaptic connections that are adaptive and damping the maladaptive ones. …”
This can protect your brain: “For example, psychological counselling has been shown to prevent second heart attacks
in patients with depression”.
Jeff Victorofff MD (2002) Saving Your Brain. Page 92. (152)