Professional counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by
telephone, email and Skype/webcam all over the world.
Plus some CPD courses and learning resources
for counselling students; postgraduate students; qualified counsellors; and self-help enthusiasts.
Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK
counselling and Skype-webcam counselling all over the English speaking world.
for individuals with good English writing skills, who are not seriously emotionally disturbed.
mentoring and advice for a range of problems..
Counselling, coaching and
psychotherapy help, in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ. And all over the world via the telephone, and
If you’re looking for highly rated help
with virtually any kind of problem that you cannot resolve on your own, then you’ve come to the right
We can help you with practical problems; relationship
problems; career problems; problems at home or at work; stress or anger problems; sadness, grief or depression; anxiety or
worry; or how to get from where you are now (stuck) to where you want to be (happy and free).
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services was established in December
1998, by Dr Jim Byrne, who is a doctor of counselling from the University of Manchester, UK. And since that time, we
have helped hundreds of individuals to overcome their problems, achieve their goals, and to become happier, healthier and
more relaxed. See the Client Testimonials page, here.***
Renata Taylor-Byrne joined the company, from Calderdale College,
to establish her own coaching and counselling division, part time, in July 2012. And she is now full time.
At Calderdale College, Renata had run a range of counselling courses for many years; and
also a range of personal effectiveness courses, including assertiveness training, confidence building, stress management,
communication skills, and many more.
Jim and Renata
jointly designed a range of courses at Calderdale College, back in the mid-1980s, including: Stress management; time management;
confidence building; interpersonal communication; stress management; study skills; and so on. These courses were taught to
every student, across all the college faculties.
Dr Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne provide a range of counselling,
coaching and psychotherapy services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, UK, HX7 8HJ; and all over the world via telephone and
email. Their services are based upon Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) which is a fusion of Rational Emotive
Behaviour Therapy (REBT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CT, CBT), Psychoanalysis (and object relations), Attachment Theory,
Transactional Analysis (TA), Moral Philosophy and many other elements. They both produce regular blogs, and informational
Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.1:
CENT counselling, we warn our therapy clients to beware of getting sucked into modern materialist grasping; because: “A lot of money does not change our emotional
life. The way we talk to ourselves - (when done slowly and consciously – JWB) – and the way in which we
(consciously – JWB) change our own stories, can and does” (change our emotional life).
How to Stay Sane (2012). Page 73. (58a)
The home of Cognitive Emotive
Narrative Therapy (CENT)
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT/REBT) with Transactional Analysis (TA), Psychoanalysis, Attachment theory, Narrative therapy;
plus elements of Buddhist, Stoic and Moral philosophies; and Critical thinking skills…
Brief video introduction to Renata's
Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.2:
teach my counselling clients that human emotional responses are virtually instantaneous and automatic. Our only hope of change
is to change ourselves today so we feel and act differently tomorrow! Paul Ekman, an expert in emotion and non-verbal communication, and his collaborators,
“… have discovered that emotional expressions begin to show up in changes in facial musculature within a few
thousandths of a second after the event that triggers the reaction, and that the physiological changes typical of a given
emotion – like shunting blood flow and increasing heart rate – also take only fractions of a second to begin.
This swiftness is particularly true of intense emotion, like a fear of a sudden threat”.
(1996) Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. Page 292. (58b)
Comments by Dr Jim: Therefore, I infer, people do not normally sit around ‘talking
to themselves’, and especially not in ‘simple, declarative sentences’, and thereby cause their own emotions.
Humans are automatic, emotive, habit-based, largely non-conscious beings, who mostly engage in ‘thinking/feeling fast’,
as suggested by Daniel Kahneman (Thinking Fast and Slow).
However, we can begin to slow down, to think/emote slowly
and consciously and carefully, about the details of our lives, and thus to get more control over our feelings and behaviours.
my Couples therapy service: I have studied, and now teach, some of the most potent approaches to developing effective
human relationships, including couple relationships and marriages. I have helped many couples to save their relationships
If you want to be happy in a secure,
affectionate, adult love relationship, then I can help you to learn. Go to Couples Therapy page.***
18 Principles of Couples Therapy
The CENT counselling approach to Couples Therapy involves
a combination of models, theories and techniques which come from some of the best approaces to helping couples to develop
happy relationships that we have been able to identify over a fifteen year period.
Here is an example of one of the couple relationship
principles that we teach our counselling clients:
Principle 7. It's OK to want to be loved,
admired, accepted and approved of. But it is most sensible to want to be loved, accepted and so on for practical
reasons, such as your companionship, sociability, loving nature, vocational advancement, your "mental accomplishments",
and so on; rather than (like a child) for your "self", or for the sake of artificially raising you "self-esteem"!
Do you seek to be loved for
practical reasons, or do you insist upon being loved for your "self"? Only a mother-substitute is likely to
love you for your "self"; and who would want to be a mother-substitute for you? Probably no one!
So it's better to grow up and not demand
you willing to grow up in this area of your emotional life?
Two options: If
you would like some counselling or coaching help with your romantic/marital relationship, then try one of these options:
About my Anger Management Counseling service: Many people come to see me with problems of anger,
at home and/or at work. They find that they have a short fuse when they are frustrated by others; or when others cause
them to look foolish; or when people behave badly when they should know better.
I have helped many people to reduce their
angry responses to a more reasonable level, by working with them on how to think and feel cooler and calmer when facing difficulties,
like insults, threats, or frustrations.
Others come from
families in which anger was modelled for them as a legitimate way to solve conflicts of opinion. However, they later
find that enflaming their feelings of anger - and acting on those feelings of anger - does not work in the wider world.
10 Principles of Anger Management
Dr Jim Byrne has created a range of approaches to anger management. You can learn those principles
by consulting him for anger management counselling and therapy, in Hebden Bridge, or by long-distance communication (telephone
or Skype) from any part of the world; or by using his anger-management self-help resource pack. Here is one of the core
principles that Dr Byrne teaches in his anger management practice:
6: Avoid developing automatic, habitual anger triggers – because some situations that look like they justify
anger actually do no such thing. You may often feel affronted in situations where no affront exists and nothing needs
to be done by you. Some contexts in which doing nothing is called for – in which case you should let it go - include:
of chaos, in which nobody could be expected to have prevented the frustration or difficulty
– for example, a busy motorway, or a crowded pavement, and somebody ‘gets in your way!’
(2) Lack of intent to offend on the part of the offending
party. Imagine you are boating on a foggy river. I big white boat comes out of the fog. It is heading straight
towards your boat, and likely to cause a collision and some damage to your hull. You become very angry. Then you notice
that the boat has nobody on board – it is adrift!
people are just like that boat. Nobody on board! Non-consciousness abounds. Do not assume intentional
offence as your default position.
Copyright (c) Dr Jim Byrne, 2015
Two options: If you are looking for coaching or counselling help to manage or control
your anger, then try on of the following options:
Depression is a painful, discouraging and draining condition. Life looks bleak
and dull, and bad feelings seem to fill our bodies as well as our minds. Sometimes individuals become depressed because
they get stuck in the grieving process. That is to say, they lose something or someone significant to them, and thus
they need to engage in appropriate sadness. But they push the sadness away, and get stuck with long term depression
instead of short term sadness. The trick with grief is to feel the sense of loss keenly, and thus to complete it.
This is what I teach my counselling
clients about anxiety: When individuals are confronted with an apparent threat or
danger, just up ahead, they have an automatic, instinctive tendency to respond with "fight" or "flight".
If you have a problem with social anxiety, then you are attempting to flee from the threat of being judged, or appearing in
a bad light, in a public place. If you are suffering from performance anxiety, in public roles, or in interviews or
academic exams, then you are most likely telling yourself two things:
I must not fail because significant other people will
not like me, or accept me so much, and that would be unbearable; and/or:
I must not make any mistakes
in public, because I will not accept anything less than perfection from myself.
I can teach you a more empowering way of managing your life which you can then apply in those situations
in which you feel anxious.
And here's a little introductory video clip on anxiety:
Anxiety & Panic Counselling, Social Anxiety & Phobia Treatment, Generalised
Anxiety Disorder Help
Our presentation discusses how panic attacks
and anxiety are very common mental health issues that can affect anyone. The methods we use to manage our anxiety affect our
emotions, our body and mind and our overall health as well as our quality of life:
and coaching for self-confidence issues should include these insights: The beginning of our loss of self-confidence is the beginning of the recognition that we are limited in our
abilities and skills, and sometimes other people perform better than we do in certain tasks.
We may also
compare our physical appearance, strength, voice, income level, and so on unfavourably with another person, and put ourselves
down (inappropriately) for our "poor showing".
In general, the destruction of our self-confidence begins when we decide
"I am an X and Ishouldbe
a Y", where X and Y can be any juxtaposed qualities, traits or personality features, or identification with particular
behaviours. For example, "I am short, and I should be tall!"; "I am fat, and I should be thin!"
Byrne produces an occasional blog on subjects related to: counselling and psychotherapy; wisdom; and personal development;
including helpful books, quotes and insights. The current blog can be found here: A counsellor blogs about various topics***
example: Annex D5: Personality adaptations in CENT counselling theory; and the relationship between thinking, feeling and
behaviour in REBT and TA… Also, reviews of the models of mind produced by Plato, Freud, Melanie Klein, aAlbert Ellis,
nd many others...
Dr Jim Byrne: Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015
In CENT counselling, we teach our clients a range of general principles of life which help them to better
understand who they are, how they came to be the way they are, and how to change their lives for the better. In a broad sense, CENT was developed by Dr Jim Byrne over many
years of study and application, in private practice with almost 800 counselling and psychotherapy clients.
Here is just one example of the 19 core principles:
No.3: Third, the
first five or six years of life are taken to be determinants of what kind of life the individual will live.Very largely, the narratives, scripts
and frames that the child learns and forms during this period – which manifest in the form of moods and emotional states,
expectations, beliefs and habitual patterns of behaviour - will determine its trajectory through life, all other things being
is, of course, some degree of malleability of the human mind, and so what was once shaped badly (by dysfunctional relationship
experiences) can to some extent be reshaped into a better form by subsequent ‘curative experiences’, with a love
partner or with a counsellor or psychotherapist.
For more information about these 19 principles of counselling psychology and psychotherapy, please go to‘What is CENT?’***
‘A Wounded psychotherapist’ is the latest (2013) book by Dr Jim Byrne. It is an analysis
of both the childhood of Dr Albert Ellis (the creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy [REBT]), and how some of those
childhood experiences most likely gave rise to certain features of his later philosophy of psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what the roots of REBT might have been, then this is the book for you. It explores
the childhood difficulties of Albert Ellis, and links those difficulties forward to the ways in which REBT was eventually
shaped. It also identified the strengths and weaknesses of REBT, and proposes an agenda for
reform of this radical system of psychotherapy.To read more, please go to: A Wounded Psychotherapist: Albert Ellis’s childhood and the strengths and limitations
Information about Counselling
Here are some video clips to help you to get
a flavour of the ABC Coaching and Counselling Services approach to counselling and therapy:
1. This first clip is a brief introduction to Dr Jim Byrne,
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, and the counselling services on offer.
2. In this
second clip, I describe the importance of taking responsibility for your own life, as the essential foundation for any form
of successful counselling process.
3. Here is a brief introduction to
Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT), which is the form of counselling and therapy created and used by Dr Jim Byrne.
There are at least 16 videos on the 16 Counselling Videos page.
4. This is Part 2 of 'What is Counselling?' It was produced by me to update my
statements about the way I think of counselling. In particular, I mention the importance of Attachment Theory,
and the counsellor being emotionally available to the client.
of site content: Counselling and coaching services; and counselling and coaching training courses and
informational resources; including video format. Face to face coaching and counselling services; telephone counselling; email
counselling; skype counselling; performance coaching; psychotherapy; couples therapy; books on counselling, and on anxiety,
anger management, stress management, and happiness. Confidence counselling and coaching: Assertiveness; self confidence; self
acceptance. Happiness coaching and positive psychology. Counselling research; and counselling supervision. Cognitive behaviour
therapy (CBT); Rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT); Cognitive emotive narrative therapy (CENT); Transactional analysis
(TA); Object relations and attachment theory; Zen Buddhism and moral philosophy. Training for counsellors; Articles
and papers on CENT counselling. Counselling diploma assignments. Copy of counsellor's doctoral thesis. The
institute for CENT (cognitive emotive narrative therapy). Pages on attachment theory, meditation, narrative therapy, writing
therapy, anger, anxiety, depression, stress, stoic philosophy for counsellors, and much more besides.
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services - Hebden Bridge - West Yorkshire - UK
27 Wood End, Keighley Road, Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire,
HX7 8HJ, UK
Telephone 01422 843 629 (or 44
1422 843 629 from outside the UK)
Services available as
follows: Face to face in Hebden Bridge; or by telephone and email all over the world.
"Helping individuals to overcome their emotional, behavioural and relationship
problems; and to be more effective in their public performance roles".
Promoting happiness and personal effectiveness.
Unless otherwise stated on these pages, all material appearing on this website
is copyright (c) Jim Byrne and/or Renata Taylor-Byrne, 2003-2012
On this site you will find lots of informational resources (mainly requiring an access fee) about
coaching, counselling and psychotherapy services to help with all kinds of emotional, behavioural and relationship difficulties
and problems; and public performance difficulties. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West
Yorkshire, UK; and all over the world via the telephone system and by email.
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informational packs, and distance learning courses.
Coaching and Counselling services is the home of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (CENT) - which is an integration of Rational
Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Narrative therapy, Attachment theory, Zen Buddhist philosophy,
Stoic philosophy, Moral philosophy, and several other systems.