Professional counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire; and by
telephone, email and Skype/webcam all over the world.
Plus some CPD courses and learning resources
for counselling students; postgraduate students; qualified counsellors; and self-help enthusiasts.
Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ, UK
counselling and Skype-webcam counselling all over the English speaking world.
for individuals with good English writing skills, who are not seriously emotionally disturbed.
mentoring and advice for a range of problems..
Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy help, in
Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire, HX7 8HJ.
And all over the world via the telephone, and email exchanges.
If you’re looking for highly rated help and
guidance with virtually any kind of problem that you cannot resolve on your own, then you’ve
come to the right place!
We can help you with
practical problems; relationship problems; career problems; problems at home or at work; stress or anger problems; sadness,
grief or depression; anxiety or worry; or how to get from where you are now (stuck) to where you want to be (happy and free).
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services was established in
December 1998, by Dr Jim Byrne, who is a doctor of counselling from the University of Manchester, UK. And since that
time, we have helped hundreds of individuals to overcome their problems, achieve their goals, and to become happier, healthier
and more relaxed. See the Client Testimonials page, here.***
Renata Taylor-Byrne joined the company, from Calderdale
College, to establish her own coaching and counselling division, part time, in July 2012. And she is now full time.
At Calderdale College, Renata had run a range of counselling
courses for many years; and also a range of personal effectiveness courses, including assertiveness training, confidence building,
stress management, communication skills, and many more.
Jim and Renata jointly designed a range of courses at Calderdale College, back in the mid-1980s, including: Stress
management; time management; confidence building; interpersonal communication; stress management; study skills; and so on.
These courses were taught to every student, across all the college faculties.
Dr Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne provide a range of
counselling, coaching and psychotherapy services, in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, UK, HX7 8HJ; and all over the world via
telephone and email.
Their services are based upon Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT) which is a fusion of Attachment Theory, Transactional Analysis (TA), Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CT, CBT), Psychoanalysis
(and object relations), Moral Philosophy, Narrative therapy, and many other elements. They both produce regular blogs,
and informational papers.
To make an appointment, please call Renata or Jim today
Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.1:
Emotional health: Definitions for counselling clients – Part 4 of a list of identifying features of emotional
health, developed by Dr Oliver James. These are goals which are rarely achieved perfectly:
No.5: When you are emotionally healthy,
“You are adaptable, but without losing yourself. When in social or professional situations which demand a measure
of falsehood, you can put on a face to meet the faces that you meet without losing your sense of authenticity. Your
real self is as close as possible to the one you are presenting to others, depending on what is feasible. For if a lie
is necessary, you lie”.
Oliver James (2014) How to Develop Emotional Health. Page 2. (14)
comments: I have a few problems with this one. Firstly, to lie when it is morally right to lie: that is okay.
(The classic case is when you open your front door and a mad axe-man asks you if there are any children in your house that
he can kill. If there are any children present, then [morally] you must lie through your teeth!) However, to lie
when it would be immoral to lie, that would be very bad (for you – in the longer term; and also for your society).
To tell occasional ‘little white lies’ for the sake of social cohesion is normally considered okay, also.
My second reservation
is about the reference to “your real self”. According to Robert Hobson (Forms of Feeling: The heart
of psychotherapy): the ‘real self’ is a committee of sub-personalities, and not one of your sub-personalities.
reviewing the advice you get from others regarding how to by emotionally healthy! Become your own counsellor!
Dr Jim Byrne
♣ To Dr Jim: “In just three sessions of counselling, you’ve
helped to resolve my emotional problems about my childhood sexual abuse. I feel much happier and greatly distanced from it
(three sessions of face to face counselling for emotional distress arising out of memories of childhood abuse).
The home of Emotive-Cognitive
Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)
Integrating: Attachment theory; Rational therapy; Psychodynamic
(‘Object relations’) therapy; Cognitive therapy; Transactional analysis; Moderate Buddhist and Stoic philosophies;
Narrative therapy; Moral philosophy; and other modalities; plus awareness of the importance of physical exercise, diet, relaxation,
'cognitive revolution' is over. The 'emotional revolution' has begun!
The 'emotional dog' was never wagged by its 'cognitive
We have recently changed the name of our sytem of counselling, coaching and psychotherapy from Cognitive Emotive Narrative
Therapy to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT). See theInstitute update.*** Obviously, given that this website has
hundreds of pages, it may take many weeks (and possibly a few months!) before they can all
be updated with the E-CENT label.
Dr. Allan Schore, is a clinician-scientist
at the UCLA Center for Culture, Brain, and Development and the UCLA Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences. He
is the author of three seminal volumes as well as numerous and articles and chapters. His work has been an important catalyst
in the ongoing "emotional revolution" now occurring across all clinical and scientific disciplines.
In E-CENT counselling, we teach our coaching and therapy clients that we are body-minds, and that the mind depends
upon diet, exercise and relaxation, etc., in order to function properly: “To keep the body in good health is a duty – otherwise we shall not be
able to keep our mind strong and clear”.
The Buddha, from a quotation in Julia Cameron’s
(1995) book, The Artist's Way: A Course in Discovering and Recovering Your Creative Self.
Dr Jim’s comment: The reason the Buddha is right to make this point is this: We are not minds that also have
bodies! We are actually body-minds. And although it is possible to distinguish the body from the mind, it is not
possible to separate them; ever. And you cannot have a healthy mind (component) in an unhealthy body(-mind).
Brief video introduction
to Renata's coaching/counselling style:
Psychology and Psychotherapy Quotation No.2:
In E-CENT counselling, we attempt to teach our clients to face up to their problems; to complete their experience
of them; and to reframe them. But many clients don’t want to know about their problems: “Most of us are not (wise enough to face up to having problems).
Fearing the pain involved, almost all of us, to a greater or lesser degree, attempt to avoid problems. We procrastinate,
hoping that they will go away. We ignore them, forget them, pretend they do not exist. We even take drugs to assist
us in ignoring them, so that by deadening ourselves to the pain we can forget the problems that cause the pain. We attempt
to skirt around problems rather than meet them head on. We attempt to get out of them rather than suffer through them”.
is the road to hell!
M. Scott Peck (1983/1990) The Road Less Travelled: The new psychology of love, traditional values
and spiritual growth. Page 14. (16)
Therapy - A coaching/teaching/training approach
By Dr Jim Byrne – Doctor of
My name is Jim Byrne, and I am a very happily married Doctor of Counselling.
I have been in private practice as a coach/ counsellor/ psychotherapist
for more than sixteen years, in Hebden Bridge, near Halifax, West Yorkshire; and all over the world via the telephone and
During that time, I’ve
been pleased to help dozens and dozens of couples with all kinds of marriage, relationship and communication problems.
Here are just three of the testimonials I’ve received
from some of those couples:
Email feedback: "Dear Jim, ... PS: We consulted you by telephone a few years ago, for relationship conflict, involving
a very serious rift ... And we are now happily married with a nine month old child. Your help was fantastic, and we
still use the phrases and descriptions you used then. In fact, we have a list of insights on a laminated poster on our
living room wall, to keep us on the straight and narrow! We will always be grateful for those insights." S.W. (and
P.W), Sheffield. (Six sessions of telephone counselling [using speaker phone] for couple conflict and relationship advice).
Plus: Here's a brief video clip introduction to Dr Jim Byrne's approach to couples therapy and marriage counselling:
Specialist Counselling-Supervision Service
For Couple's Therapists
By Dr Jim Byrne
Doctor of Counselling
and Couples Therapist
Although I am happy to work with counsellors and therapists
from any discipline, or any area of specialism; I also have a special talent for helping couple therapists to
handle the stresses and strains of their field of work.
So if you are a couple’s therapist, and you want to work with a supervisor who knows this field of
work intimately, after sixteen years’ experience; and who has developed a structured approach to couples
therapy which avoids conflict and stress, then I can help you.
Stress in the counselling
It may be difficult for many people
to believe, but the open secret in the world of counselling and therapy is that “couples therapy stresses out therapists”.
(The New York Times, Elizabeth Weil, ‘Does couples therapy work?’ 2nd March 2012).
One of the insights of that article is this: most
therapists are too soft and gentle to be able to manage the aggression that is brought to the counselling room by distressed
Pearson and Bader, a couple of psychologists,
from the Couples Institute in Palo Alto, California, describe the role of the counsellor with volatile couples as being “like
piloting a helicopter in a hurricane”.
In Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT), we have evolved ahighly structured approach to couples therapy, which locks the couple into a ‘gentle-person’s’ agreement
to follow anagreed structurewhich prevents arguments, conflict, volatility, or overload of the counsellor.
counselling, coaching, psychotherapy and training
By Dr Jim Byrne
Anger comes in various forms.
its aggressive form anger is destructive. Aggressive anger is a form ofuncontrolledrage and hostility,
which can easily become physical aggression, conflict and assault of others – resulting in physical harm to others,
or causing them to physically harm you!
In its assertive form anger
is constructive. Assertive anger stops you becoming a doormat for others. It fuels your assertive
communications to others, in which you ask for what you want, and say a strong ‘No’ to what you do not want.
There is also a passive-aggressive form, in which you put up with unreasonable
behaviour, insults, etc., form others – each time collecting a hate-fuelled ‘brown stamp’, which goes in
your mental stamp book. When you’ve collected enough of these passive brown-stamps, you flip from passive to aggressive
mode, and you cash in your stamps in exchange for an explosive outburst of hostility and rage at the other person or persons.
This passive-aggressive form of anger is also, clearly destructive.
I can teach you how to reduce your destructive anger tendencies, and to only use your assertive anger tendencies,
in a reasonable, productive way: Anger Management with Dr Jim.***
About my Anger Management Counseling service: Many people
come to see me with problems of anger, at home and/or at work. They find that they have a short fuse when they are frustrated
by others; or when others cause them to look foolish; or when people behave badly when they should know better.
I have helped many people to reduce their angry responses to a more
reasonable level, by working with them on how to think and feel cooler and calmer when facing difficulties, like insults,
threats, or frustrations.
Others come from families in which anger was modelled for them as a legitimate way to solve
conflicts of opinion. However, they later find that enflaming their feelings of anger - and acting on those feelings
of anger - does not work in the wider world.
10 Principles of Anger Management
Dr Jim Byrne has created a range of approaches
to anger management. You can learn those principles by consulting him for anger management counselling and therapy,
in Hebden Bridge, or by long-distance communication (telephone or Skype) from any part of the world; or by using his anger-management
self-help resource pack. Here is one of the core principles that Dr Byrne teaches in his anger management practice:
Principle 6: Avoid developing
automatic, habitual anger triggers – because some situations that look like they justify anger actually do no such thing.
You may often feel affronted in situations where no affront exists and nothing needs to be done by you. Some contexts
in which doing nothing is called for – in which case you should let it go - include:
(1) Situations of chaos, in which nobody could be expected to have
prevented the frustration or difficulty – for example, a busy motorway, or a crowded pavement, and somebody ‘gets
in your way!’
of intent to offend on the part of the offending party. Imagine you are boating on
a foggy river. I big white boat comes out of the fog. It is heading straight towards your boat, and likely to
cause a collision and some damage to your hull. You become very angry. Then you notice that the boat has nobody on board
– it is adrift!
are just like that boat. Nobody on board! Non-consciousness abounds. Do not assume intentional
offence as your default position.
Copyright (c) Dr Jim Byrne, 2015
Two options: If you are looking for coaching or counselling
help to manage or control your anger, then try on of the following options:
Depression is a painful, discouraging and draining condition. Life looks bleak
and dull, and bad feelings seem to fill our bodies as well as our minds. Sometimes individuals become depressed because
they get stuck in the grieving process. That is to say, they lose something or someone significant to them, and thus
they need to engage in appropriate sadness. But they push the sadness away, and get stuck with long term depression
instead of short term sadness. The trick with grief is to feel the sense of loss keenly, and thus to complete it.
began my counselling career as a Rational Emotiver Behaviour Therapist (REBT), but I have since moved on and become much broader-based;
integrating several systems from the major schools of counselling and therapy.
I still rely on some
of the insights of REBT in my work, but I would not focus down as hard as Dr Michael Edelstein on the belief
component of the depression - and especially not his narrow focus on 'shoulds' and other 'demands'. (See the video clip
that follows). I would also focus on the client's diet, level of physical exercise, relationships, attachment style,
sleep pattern, 'attitude towards gratitude', vitamin D levels, and ways of building hope for the future. (I might add
several different elements to this list, depending upon the specific problem presented by the client, and their specific social
is what I teach my counselling clients about anxiety: When individuals are confronted
with an apparent threat or danger, just up ahead, they have an automatic, instinctive tendency to respond with "fight"
or "flight". If you have a problem with social anxiety, then you are attempting to flee from the threat of
being judged, or appearing in a bad light, in a public place. If you are suffering from performance anxiety, in public
roles, or in interviews or academic exams, then you are most likely telling yourself two things:
I must not fail because significant other people will not like me, or accept me so much, and that would be unbearable;
I must not make any mistakes in public, because I will
not accept anything less than perfection from myself.
I can teach you a more empowering way of managing your life which you can then apply in those situations
in which you feel anxious.
a little introductory video clip on anxiety:
& Panic Counselling, Social Anxiety & Phobia Treatment, Generalised Anxiety Disorder Help
Our presentation discusses how panic attacks and anxiety are very common
mental health issues that can affect anyone. The methods we use to manage our anxiety affect our emotions, our body and mind
and our overall health as well as our quality of life:
and coaching for self-confidence issues should include these insights: The beginning
of our loss of self-confidence is the beginning of the recognition that we are limited in our abilities and skills, and sometimes
other people perform better than we do in certain tasks.
We may also compare our physical appearance,
strength, voice, income level, and so on unfavourably with another person, and put ourselves down (inappropriately) for our
In general, the
destruction of our self-confidence begins when we decide "I am an X and Ishouldbe a Y", where X and Y can be any juxtaposed qualities,
traits or personality features, or identification with particular behaviours. For example, "I am short, and I should
be tall!"; "I am fat, and I should be thin!"
Jim Byrne produces an occasional blog on subjects related to: counselling
and psychotherapy; wisdom; and personal development; including helpful books, quotes and insights. The current blog
can be found here: A counsellor blogs about various topics***
For example: Annex D5: Personality adaptations in E-CENT counselling theory; and
the relationship between thinking, feeling and behaviour in REBT and TA… Also, reviews of the models of mind produced
by Plato, Freud, Melanie Klein, aAlbert Ellis, nd many others...
By Dr Jim
Byrne: Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2009-2015
E-CENT counselling, we teach our clients a range of general principles of life which help them to better understand who they
are, how they came to be the way they are, and how to change their lives for the better. In
a broad sense, E-CENT was developed by Dr Jim Byrne over many years of study and application,
in private practice with almost 800 counselling and psychotherapy clients.
Here is just one example of the 19 core principles:
Principle No.3: Third, the first five or six years of life are taken to be determinants of what kind of life the individual
will live. Very largely, the narratives, scripts and frames that the child learns and forms during this period
– which manifest in the form of moods and emotional states, expectations, beliefs and habitual patterns of behaviour
- will determine its trajectory through life, all other things being equal. There is, of course, some degree of
malleability of the human mind, and so what was once shaped badly (by dysfunctional relationship experiences) can to some
extent be reshaped into a better form by subsequent ‘curative experiences’, with a love partner or with a counsellor
For more information about these 19 principles of counselling psychology
and psychotherapy, please go to‘What is E-CENT?’***
‘A Wounded psychotherapist’ is the latest (2013) book by Dr Jim Byrne. It is an analysis
of both the childhood of Dr Albert Ellis (the creator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy [REBT]), and how some of those
childhood experiences most likely gave rise to certain features of his later philosophy of psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what the roots of REBT might have been, then this is the book for you. It explores
the childhood difficulties of Albert Ellis, and links those difficulties forward to the ways in which REBT was eventually
shaped. It also identified the strengths and weaknesses of REBT, and proposes an agenda for
reform of this radical system of psychotherapy.To read more, please go to: A Wounded Psychotherapist: Albert Ellis’s childhood and the strengths and limitations
are some video clips to help you to get a flavour of the ABC Coaching and Counselling Services approach to counselling and therapy:
1. This first clip is
a brief introduction to Dr Jim Byrne, ABC Coaching and Counselling Services, and the counselling services on offer.
2. In this second clip, I describe the importance of taking responsibility
for your own life, as the essential foundation for any form of successful counselling process.
Here is a brief introduction to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT)
4. This is Part 2
of 'What is Counselling?' It was produced by me to update my statements about the way I think of counselling.
In particular, I mention the importance of Attachment Theory, and the counsellor being emotionally available to the client.
Overview of site content: Counselling and coaching services;
and counselling and coaching training courses and informational resources; including video format. Face to face coaching and
counselling services; telephone counselling; email counselling; skype counselling; performance coaching; psychotherapy; couples
therapy; books on counselling, and on anxiety, anger management, stress management, and happiness. Confidence counselling
and coaching: Assertiveness; self confidence; self acceptance. Happiness coaching and positive psychology. Counselling research;
and counselling supervision. Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT); Rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT); Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT); Transactional analysis (TA); Object relations and attachment theory;
Zen Buddhism and moral philosophy. Training for counsellors; Articles and papers on E-CENT counselling. Counselling
diploma assignments. Copy of counsellor's doctoral thesis. The institute for E-CENT (Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy). Pages on attachment theory, meditation, narrative therapy, writing therapy, anger,
anxiety, depression, stress, stoic philosophy for counsellors, and much more besides.
On this site you will find lots of informational resources (mainly requiring
an access fee) about coaching, counselling and psychotherapy services to help with all kinds of emotional, behavioural
and relationship difficulties and problems; and public performance difficulties. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy
in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, UK; and all over the world via the telephone system and by email.
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ABC Coaching and Counselling Services is the home of
Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy (E-CENT) - which
is an integration of: Attachment theory; Rational therapy; Psychodynamic (‘Object relations’) therapy; Cognitive
therapy; Transactional analysis; Narrative therapy; Moderate Buddhist and Stoic philosophies; Moral philosophy; and other